Another randomly related thought -- I'm fine with my kids making whatever choices they want to make. Totally fine. My history is that I was raised by radical fundamental Christians who disowned me when I left the religion, and sometimes some natural families remind me of them. It becomes a mortality thing, it's extreme and judgmental. I, personally, need to stay far away from those attitudes, which are far more toxic to me than anything found in a cleaning product. I'd rather my kids use deodorant with aluminum but know that they are completely loved and accepted than to make their own and think that my approval of them rest on that.
I so agree with that--I think that even the "natural" lifestyle can become toxic if it' based in extreme judgement and unaccepting of other views and lifestyles. My husband and I do our best to live "green"--we eat organic food when we can afford it, use (mostly) natural cleaning products, and try to reduce waste and mindless consumption. We're nowhere near perfect, however, and I often feel judged and even demoralized by some of my friends who live the natural lifestyle to the max. When it becomes a "holier than thou" competition, I check out.
Well said Linda On the Move! I think we need to remember that our children (or our other family members or friends) won't necessarily make the same lifestyle choices we do, and that our love and acceptance of them should not be based on whether their beliefs are in line with our own.