In the September One Thread, I mentioned DH telling DD about how we met and how she came into this world and I thought it would be fun to hear about everyone else's stories of how they met and how their children came to be. I'll go first!
December 2005: I see him behind my mom's truck in traffic, as my sister points him out as a co-worker at the local IHOP and they are waving back and forth. I look back and I get this strange feeling in the pit of my stomach. Almost like butterflies, but something intuitive was telling me "that man will change your life forever". Little did I know..... lol
Fast forward to February 2006 and I am wanting a part time, after school job to pay for my cell phone bill. I'm 16, so I'm approved to work 30 hours a week if I wished. I got a job at the same IHOP as him on February 11th. I had no visual attraction to him at all when I met him. I thought he was really funny and smart and outgoing. Two weeks after I started working there, I start to feel attracted to him and we exchange flirts here and there and then one night, in early March I told him that I liked him. I think he thought I was joking, because nothing else was said about it until March 10th, and I went up to him and said you know I was serious the other night when I said I really liked you. He looked really surprised and said he liked me too. It was shortly before our shift were over, so I continued doing my cleanup duties. The next day, was really flirty and that night, when I was cleaning the men's bathroom, he came in there and told me jokingly I needed to get out so he could go to the bathroom. After saying he was joking, I blocked the door and he said I need to finish my work. I said "but what if I do this?" And kissed him lightly. After that, it was at least a 5 minute makeout session. It was total bliss! Fireworks, butterflies.....Kissing him was heaven.
Since I was still a minor, and he was 10 years my senior, we knew our relationship would be forbidden. So, the next night, we planned to have him pick me up at the end of the driveway at my mom's house at midnight, when everyone would be asleep. We ended up having sex that night, and little did we know at the time, that night would change our lives forever. I was on birth control and we trusted in each other that neither of us had an STD, so we didn't bother with a condom. I ended up pregnant by March 13th. The strange thing is, we made our relationship exclusive that night, and even pondered on children if we ended up being together that long. We mostly talked about how we'd love to have a girl if we have kids and he said he always wanted a girl named Casey, and I wanted Mercedes. It was mutual that if we ever had children and happened to have a girl that she would be named Casey Mercedes.
A few weeks down the road, we were falling head over heels in love and were inseperable at work and wrote letters to each other(I still have those letters!). My sister and her now husband saw this and started asking questions and even warned my DH to leave me alone. ALOT of stuff happened that we thought would prevent us being together. Things having to do with drugs, and DH possibly going to jail if he didn't stop seeing me. It still, oddly enough, didn't stop us. I never found out I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks pregnant, around May 20th.
DH and I were both happy and scared of what the future held. He needed to talk to my mom to get her blessing to see me and this didn't happen until late August. She finally agreed, but told him that she still didn't like him and probably would never. I had our son after 19 hours of labor at 2:30AM on December 16th, 2006, and we both fell in love all over again.
Afterwards, we moved in together and when DS was 5 months old, we fell into addiction hard until he was 18 months, when I decided to get help and split from DH in order to stay clean. It took a month for him to want help and entered treatment in August 2008. We had a small wedding ceremony September 6th, but never got married legally.
Later that month, I found out I was pregnant (on birth control again) and lost the baby in late October, but we both stayed clean through it and even though the pregnancy was a surprise, we got used to the idea and wanted the baby.
Needless to say, we purposely got pregnant with the baby that would be Casey, on New Years Eve. We moved away after DH got a promotion in another town. When it came time to have Casey, we were very happy to be finally meeting the girl we'd dreamed of since day 1. When she was born the first thing me and DH said was "She has red hair!" Just like daddy. lol Again, we fell in love all over!
Over the next year, we lost communication and grew apart. I left him for a time with Casey in January for another man, who made things seem like he was alot better for me. Ha! How wrong I was..... On birth control, I got pregnant after only 3 weeks with this guy. After alot of severe emotional abuse, I asked Billy if I could stay at his house til I could figure out what I needed to do. We had no intention of getting back together, because of al that we'd put each other through, over the time I was away. A week after I came to stay, we were talking about where things went wrong and we both started crying and holding each other.
I looked up at him and asked for a kiss and it was our first kiss all over again. It was all over from then on. And we are doing even better than when we first got together, even though I'm carrying someone else's child. I have massive respect for him for that. I couldn't ask for a better person to share my life with, even though we've had many ups and downs and close calls. I love him and we want to "re-tie" the knot and do it legally this time. lol
Sorry this was SOOOO long. lol I couldn't stop writing once I got past how we met and came to be together.