ITA with MW - I hate letting a babe go hungry, but in this case it may be absolutely necessary. Lesser of evils. Thanks for sharing with us about Ava - I know it isn't easy to do, but I'm glad to hear where you're at with her diagnsosis and treatment. FX she stays very healthy this winter and can wait until spring for the next surgery (then she'll be bigger and likely will be able to go a bit a longer between feedings as well- double plus!)
Carrie - trust your gut! - at least he didn't try to get you to switch to an expensive formula or something. Every breastfed baby I know ends up at least supplemented with formula when they get a reflux diagnosis. Hope the Zantac helps and Finn can be in a happier, more comfortable phase.
AFM: appointment went fine yesterday; heartbeat is good - I think she's lower than the doctor expected because he tried to listen closer to my belly button and he had to adjust several times. Had a cervical check (I know they are sort of pointless, but I was curious, since I can't seem to make sense of anything down there) - and I'm 2 cm, barely starting to efface (very thick he said), but cervix is anterior and he could feel the baby's head easily through the cervix.
For me, other than the barely effaced part, this is all good news, because with Gabe, even at 42 weeks when I went into be induced, I wasn't even at a 2. the MW never could get her finger through my cervix. (and doc did, easily) and I'm 39 weeks. also, he felt her head, and Gabe nearly always was floating or very close to it. so she seems to be able to engage properly and apply pressure to my cervix, which I don't think Gabe could, because he wasn't in a good position.
So all in all, I'll take it, and keep focusing. Mantra is "dilate, efface, and descend" I'm also taking the advice of one of the DDC people and just trying to relax and not spend/waste a bunch of energy walking and bouncing and doing things to bring on labor (outside the realm of normal things I'd do anyway). I am trying to have faith that it will start on its own (the active bit), and I will definitely know when it's happening, so I need to save my energy for the important things!
Looking forward to this weekend . . . I'm so ready to be done working! come on baby!