Ok, this is a mental dump and I am so grateful to anyone who has the patience to read it and the kindness to respond.
I'm feeling like I'm on the brink of making a life choice, and I'm good at overthinking, stressing and obsessing over these kinds of things. Not to the point of unhappiness, though. It's just a side effect of being a planner :)
I am still happily bfing my 18 month old DD and DH and I are wanting to get pregnant with babe #2 in the next few months. This is a summary of our household (prob not much different that a lot of yours:) bfing on demand 2-4 times/day, cosleeping (also happily without any desire to stop by any parties involved) and bfing thru the night. DD is very much attached to bfing. In fact we have a very accurate saying around here pertaining to her love of my breasts -"Milky makes the world go 'round". You get the picture :)
DH and I both have a desire to have our children less than 3 years apart, and concieving in these next few months would put us at our goal. We may want to have more than 2 children and due to our own ages feel like we need to get the show on the road. Also, I'm starting a Master's program in midwifery in January.
So, I guess I'd like to know things I might need to think about for my daughter concerning bfing and cosleeping when I become pregnant. Is it likely my milk will dry up? Will I maybe want to nightwean? If so, will she still stay in our bed?
I hate the idea of rocking her world with all these changes and making it stressful for her. I also think perhaps I'm worrying for nothing. I also think even if it's though at first we are providing her with a life long gift of a sibling!
I'd just like to be proactive rather than reactive. For you that have been there done that, I'd love to hear from you and about your challenges or pleasant surprises when adding a second child.