My 6 year old is currently the queen of complaining. I do not deal well with it. Today we made chocolate milkshakes and went to the water park. Shortly after we got back, the ice cream truck went down our street. The other kids in our complex were getting ice cream - I reminded dd that we had just had a chocolate milkshake. So she began complaining about the injustices of the world. After a long while of being empathetic but firm, I had a bit of a meltdown.
Tonight I went over to our neighbor's house to call her in for dinner. She started complaining that she had to go (I gave her a warning beforehand) and complaining that she wouldn't like the dinner (she didn't know what it was yet).
Yes, I know that this is totally normal kid stuff, but the complaining drives me bonkers. There's rarely appreciation, rarely a please or a thank you. Treats are just accepted as normal. When she doesn't get treats she complains.
I consider myself to be a rather appreciative person. I can find happiness in most things. I rarely complain (except now, when yes...I am complaining!). I think about the positives. I turn hard things around. I suppose I am worried that this constant complaining about minor irritants will be her way of being in life - a way in which you tell yourself that the whole world is against you. I know people like this and I don't like to hang out with them.
So - how do I deal with this on an everyday level? How should I react to all of this complaining? Sometimes I ignore it, sometimes I empathize but continue to say "no," sometimes we find a mutually agreeable solution.
And how can I teach my daughter to create a way of being in the world that does not involve constant complaining - one that involves appreciation instead?