CLW support

[dandalion]

I am in some serious need of support. My girl is 2.5 and is still nursing and I am getting so much pressure from family to wean her. My husband says he is fine with it but I think he is starting to waiver. My mom is the biggest proponent for weaning her. She says I am doing a disservice to her by not let her become independent and she think I she is still nursing because I am not ready and that it has pushed past normal into dependent.....or something along those lines. This whole thing is making me so sad, it feels like such a natural beautiful action being made ugly. I defended my choice to CLW but I still feel sad about the whole thing. I really don't want DD to start to feel other weirdness with her still nursing but I wonder how I will shield her if she is still nursing in 6months...a year.? So my questions are how have you done it? What do you say to friends and family? To your child?

Thank you so much. I really need so kind support. :) 

[isabchi]

Hi , Hugs to you!

A breastfeeding relationship is between a Mother and a Child. A want to point out a few thing that you said,

You said that your DD " STILL" nursing..well, you're putting down already down like it's something that you;re excusing yourself about a bad behavior.Nursing at 2,5 yo, is just the normal for not pressured child to nurse.

Second, you're doing something very important for your daughter to offering the opportunity to live and enjoy the fullness of  a breastfeeding stage. If somebody else has their own though are just their choices with their own kids and time.As I took a choices CLW your own, you can see other child as they are not have the wonderful opportunity and somehow are been pushed to weaned when they're not ready yet.

Nursing your child for wherever set of time is something that is nobody else business that include your mom and other family member. I think it's absolutely not fair that you have to even feel sad because somebody else has issues. Also, your setting the example for your child.

When I start nursing my DD I didn't knew anybody the nurse for more that couple months. Now, after  DD CLWed at 6 yo and continues nursing my DS for 3+ years, we just see different. My kids are doing what is the optimum for a child, all the rest is early weaning for wherever reasons that is not up to us criticize it. I just do hat I consider the best for my children and I not accept critics just support. 

[dandalion]

Thanks for the support. I just want to say I really love still nursing her. i just don't want the negative feelings about it from others to make her feel that it is anything but normal. How did you handle that? Did you still openly BF in public or was the a discussion about it only being in private? What did you say to them? And your right I am going to examine my feelings about it and make very certain that I am not putting bad vibes about it. I guess I just feel so defensive about it staying something innocent for her and for someone to suggest otherwise upsets me. Does that make sense?

Thanks again.

[isabchi]

You're doing great!. It's always healthy to "talk" about ours feelings. I feel somehow we have to step up for our kids here and there. I don't approve or accept that anybody be negative or put down wherever aspect of my children life. Ei. My DD is very hairy, I can't speak our immediately is somebody including other kids do any negative comment relate to the amount of body hair my DD have, or her appearance. If somebody has her/his opinion they're free to keep with themselves.

Between their 2-3 yo, we tried to limit the nursing privately when was possible. But, sometimes, it's not possible, I always set in my mind that I nurse  to comfort them and that always is the most important thing in that moment.

I know that many has their opinion. Probably that same people that criticize you, do many differences things in their own life that you can probably don;t agree somehow. Each own to their own!

My DD is been weaning for a month or so. We had many ups and down, but I'm very please that we keep up thinks smoothly even with all the inconveniences.