Well, yesterday was the first day of 2nd grade for my biggest and I ha a revelation. I frequent a local yarn shop and lately I would not DREAM of bringing all of my children there. The last time I did they ran chasing each other through this nice store and by the time it was said and done I wanted to wring their necks. Now, I am aware that this is normal boy behavior. However, I prepared them before hand with what I expected of them, ie no running in store. I corrected the behavior in store (grab the arm as child ran by, look in the eye, say "no more running", bla bla bla ). They persist with the wild behavior. So they go with me no more and there is varying degrees of this behavior else where so going places became dreadful to me. I could no longer visit friends homes due to their rambunctious behavior.
Then yesterday I ventured to the yarn store with other 3 boys sans big brother. The clouds parted, the sun shone through the clouds and lo and behold I had an realization. Big brother is the instigator! The other 3 (well 2, baby is hangin' in the sling) were darlings. I was calm and collected and able to guide them happily. There was no running or yelling. I then reflected on other stressful situations and it's clear that he gets his brothers going and I can't bring them back after that. I wondered why when he came home from school the stress level rose and the atmosphere chained in the house.
So my question is...
How do I discipline my oldest son and help him keep control over his actions. Its like he just can't help himself. The others follow and they can't help themselves either of course. But at 7, I feel he should be able to follow instructions and not behave like a wild animal when he has been given specific instructions.
Sorry if this is garbled!!