Hi, I'm new here. I just found out last week that we are expecting our second child. Our first's hospital birth was AWFUL and I was resolved never to do it again. I had found a midwife and everything, but it turns out there's basically no way we can afford that. So I'm seriously considering doing this all by myself. Over the course of a week I've gone from "how does anyone do that?" to "am I really considering this?"
My question is, where do I start? What should I read/research/learn? I want to do this as scientifically as possible -- I'm really into learning about my body, and I also want to be as safe as possible. So I know I want to learn neonatal resuscitation, what to do in the event of a hemorrhage, etc.
My vague plan is to do prenatal care with a regular doctor, and just not show up for the birth. Then I could contact that doctor for my Rhogam shot and anything else I need. (It is very important to me to get this, but I hear it is very difficult to get it if you're not being seen by an OB/Gyn.) It also would give me a lot of reassurance that everything is proceeding normally. Has anyone gone this route?
Another issue is convincing my husband. He's not opposed, but he's unsure. So far I've been reassuring him that very few emergencies are "real" emergencies -- that is, there would be plenty of time to get to the hospital (which is five minutes away). But I want him 100% on board with this if we do it, so that he will be as informed as I am (or almost) and is a support for me. Last time he tried to "take charge" from time to time, like by waking me up when I was napping between contractions, which was NOT AT ALL helpful. That was one reason for getting a midwife ... someone to tell him what I was doing was normal so I didn't have to have the distraction of explaining stuff to him. So, if we're going to do this, I want him to read up a bit.
I'm browsing the internet and this forum, trying to find out more, but does anyone have any good links or tips for where to start?