IME, a lot of people I know have changed there minds about not vaxing, but Ive never known anyone that says they wished they had circed their son. Even some of the die hard no vax ladies I know now vax their kids for one reason or another. Im not arguing that people should vax, as we only vax for dtap, and if it wasnt for DH I wouldnt even do that.
I know not everyone has the opportunity to do so because of surprise pregnancies and quick marriages, but these arguments are precisely why I think its important to really know the person you are choosing to parent with. We discussed circ, vax, school options, and parenting methods long before we ever had children. I know that some things change, and opinions change, but the idea that seems to be rampant on everywhere on MDC is that if everything isnt perfect and if someone disagrees with you or your methods at all- get that person out of your life as fast as possible. And that doesnt just apply to Im not Vaxing and the Circ forum. Its everywhere. People dont like to compromise, and marriage isnt seen as something that you HAVE to work on or work out most of the time.
As far as the OP goes, I wasnt insinuating that she as a troll, I was basically saying how embarrassing it is that a new person came and asked for advice and when she comes back to look, all she is really going to see is how drama filled this forum is. Instead of advice about how people got past these issues with their partner, she is going to see a bunch of "I threatened to leave my DH if he wanted to vax", which is really not very helpful. Most people are not going to threaten to leave their husband and take their kid away over a healthcare issue that can really, just be put off for a while until things can be discussed further.
I know if I was the OP, Id have no real reason to come back to MDC after I read this thread. I hope that isnt the case for her.