Hi Averysmomma. There have been lots of threads I've agreed with you on, but I just totally disagree with you on this one. Yes, I've seen the billion threads on MDC about CPS and yes I do think that on occassion workers make very poor decisions regarding pulling kids from homes when it should not happen. I just happen to think that the majority of bad decisions made by social workers are leaving kids in dangerous situations. I think you and I view CPS very differently. My opinion is that their job and the work they do is protecting children and supporting families who would otherwise not be capable of parenting their children safely. You view them as an entity that walks all over parents'rights. Maybe if you saw .1% of the situations I've seen up close and personal, you would understand why ensuring child safety is a bigger priority than a parents' "rights" not to have to deal with CPS, have intrusive visits, go to therapy, take classes, etc. It sucks for those who go through the process without good reason, but probably for every time that happens, 100 kids in disgustingly abusive and neglectful situations are saved more heartache, pain, and hardship. To me, the benefits of CPS outweigh the negatives. Also, all those intrusive things CPS requires....like making parents do education...is really CPS doing its best to keep kids where they belong--with their families. Child safety within the biological family home is the absolute goal of CPS. "Ongoing workers" are assigned solely to help the family with any and all resources possible to strengthen the family unit and allow the children to remain in the family home. Yes, it sucks if you are like OP and don't need it, but the vast majority of families who work with an ongoing worker truly do need assistance. Ongoing workers regularly help connect families with WIC, food stamps, MA, childcare, employment, housing, parenting education, therapy, addiction services, etc. I've worked with many families who have ended up really liking me (imagine that) and being so grateful for the assistance they've received because so many of them really couldn't do it on their own. The outside stressors majorly impacted their parenting, and they were happy to have those stressors removed so they could become better parents.
Also, this is definitely in NO way a reference to OP, but I will tell you I have seen other posters on MDC posting about the horrific things CPS has done to them, claiming they are "perfect" and CPS had no justification for their actions. However, I've seen other threads by these same exact posters in which extremely serious safety issues have been brought up. I am not going to list names, obviously, and will not even get into the details of what they themselves wrote on MDC in other threads because I don't want to get "warned" or anything, but feel free to pm me if you want me to provide you with some examples. Without a doubt, there have been posters on here who had absolutely no business parenting their children and CPS, but more importantly, their CHILDREN, had every right in the world to have CPS intruding on their lives. Horrific, dangerous, and sickening things. So, while there are threads in which I wholeheartedly believe the MDC member has been the victim of really bad luck (like OP in this case), there are also posters claiming CPS is so awful who are not telling the whole story in their "scare the pants off of everyone else at MDC" threads. You also have been around long enough to have picked up on some of these cases... This is the internet afterall, and being an MDC mama does not mean someone isn't neglectful or abusive.
Even being a social worker, I'll agree with you on this...CPS sucks. They do a bad job in general of protecting children. I just am of the belief that their major flaw is underreacting, not overreacting. Social workers, for the most part, do not have the attitude like a cop or IRS worker that they want to catch you being bad. They want to ensure children are safe. Period. Those who do the work without those values are screwed up. We all think teachers are great, right? Nobody says all teachers are terrible people who want to abuse children just because we occassionally hear on the news that a teacher has done so. Why paint all social workers with the same brush? We're massively underpaid (think literally half of what teachers make and no summer breaks), work long hours and are frequently on call nights when there is any sort of emergency, go into dangerous and disgusting situations, sit up awake at night grieving for the children we see in such horrible situations (frequently with no way to truly improve things for them),and are viewed as people who ruin families, take children away from good families, leave them with bad families, etc. I mean, really... Do you think most workers take on those responsibilities because they want to yank kids from good families, or do you think, just maybe, we actually care about kids being safe?