Originally Posted by Landover
Not trying to be strange, and I am so sorry to all of the mommas who are dealing with this.... but, why not just keep your house cleaner. *ducking and hiding head* I am not trying to stir up a pot, but if all of this really is scaring you to death isn't easier to clean then live in fear? I have three small kids, I homeschool, I teach online course, and we have two boxers and a cat... my house is mostly clean. At any moment there are dishes in the sick from lunch that I didn't have time to load into the dishwasher, etc... but NOTHING that would ever make me think about CPS! Also, we are all talking about a large sum of money to move. Instead of that, why not hire a cleaning lady to come twice a month instead?
Seriously, not trying to offend anyone, but let's log onto fly lady and get in gear! LOL!
This was the point I reached after someone tried to make a false allegation against me. However, you can't assume that clean will be seen as clean. The initial report against me was completely fabricated by a caseworker on a power trip. When I saw the road she was trying to go down, I contacted the police to have them document everything while she was still there as well- and that is the ONLY thing that saved my butt.
In my case, we're not talking stretching the truth, she outright LIED through her teeth.
1. There were animal feces all over the house. She took a picture made to look like a pile of animal poo on a couch. It was a plastic hamburger from my child's play kitchen.
2. DD was playing with drugs in the upstairs hallway. First, there were no drugs in the house, second, she spilled out a box of baking soda I kept in the upstairs bath and directed DD to play with it.
3. Filthy laundry was piled all over the house. She took a photo to demonstrate this, when it was zoomed out, you could see that she'd taken a picture of a load of laundry in the dryer. She zoomed in on JUST the laundry and stated that it was piled all over the house.
4. DD was filthy and covered with lice. Nope, she did have some powder in her hair (remember, the caseworker had directed her to play in baking soda....) but I had to get a forensic examination the next day to disprove the statement about lice/filth.
In this instance, the complaint she had been told scared her, and she was creating reasons to take my daughter first and ask questions later. Obviously, it all came out ok but only because I'd had the presence of mind to stand up for myself and I had called the police to help me.
This caseworker also tried to tell me that if I didn't sign papers agreeing with what she found she would terminate my rights that moment. If I hadn't known better, that might have scared me into signing something that would have completely screwed my chances.
It was horrific and frightening, but very much an anomaly. This is not a matter of all caseworkers, or even some- it was a situation of a very warped woman who should not have had the job she did.
It took about 5 years to get past the terror of someone at the door. I still can't tolerate having anything out of place in my home, because someone might twist a bad day against us, but I do much better. I keep my house MOSTLY spotless for peace of mind. Once I got into the habit of it, it wasn't too hard, but it is daunting to manage before you have decluttered and gotten into a pattern of keeping things just so. At the moment, it's a bit of a mess as I am on my own and pregnant and today was a really sick/tired sort of day. There is a blanket on the couch, the blocks are out of their bin (and have been for about 10 minutes now) and I'm just getting around to asking DD to unload the dishwasher so I can wash the lunch dishes. For the most part though I simply don't allow messiness to happen in our house precisely for reasons like this. If something happens, it will always happen at the worst possible time.