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post #21 of 348

Those look cheaper! I might try them. Floradix is around $27 for a 12 day supply. And it tastes icky. All that trouble, and it's not really helping. I am never anemic when I am not pregnant, but always anemic during pregnancy. Oh well. At least I have an excuse for sleeping 9-10 hours a night/ day!
 

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Ugh I am anemic too and have been taking Vitanica Iron supplements.  They are going to retest at my 32 week appt to see if it's improved... I hope so!



 



 

post #22 of 348

My BP has been creeping up. :( It's making me nervous because I could lose my homebirth over it. It was pretty high (at least for me) one day (130s over 80 or 82 I think) and the midwife just said we'd have to keep an eye on it because we didn't want to have to induce she said. She recommended passion flower tincture and I rarely remember to take it. I think it was high that day because I was stuck in traffic for a long time and was 25 minutes late to my appointment. I've been on calcium magnesium supplements for a few months which she originally recommended for it. The few times I've had my BP taken since then it's been lower.

 

That's cool you were a surrogate. That is something I've been really thinking about lately and in fact, I just mentioned it to DH before I logged in and saw that! His only response was, "You know most people would want you to have the baby in a hospital." And I understand. I do love being pregnant (although I have to say the third trimester is getting tough). I have no idea if I'd be a good candidate though. I had fertility issues of my own and I'm overweight. I have no idea what makes a good candidate. I'm also already 32 years old and want to BF this LO for awhile and getting pregnant again would interfere with that, plus we'd like to have a second. So I don't know if I even could but it's definitely something I'd consider. I have to get through this birth though and see how I do.

post #23 of 348

Caracol8- Michele: 11/1, baby #1, planning on a home birth, hopefully in my new fishy pool

 

post #24 of 348
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That's so cool that you were a surrogate!!  Have you shared that story anywhere? I always wonder if I could do it (I don't necessarily *love* pregnancy).  I have some dear gay friends whom I would consider carrying a baby for.  Would love to hear about your experience!

 

 



 


Thank you!  I recently posted my birth story:  http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1325171/the-birth-of-surrogate-baby-mb

 

It focuses more on the birth than the surrogacy experience as a whole, though.  Let me know if you have any questions!

 



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That's cool you were a surrogate. That is something I've been really thinking about lately and in fact, I just mentioned it to DH before I logged in and saw that! His only response was, "You know most people would want you to have the baby in a hospital." And I understand. I do love being pregnant (although I have to say the third trimester is getting tough). I have no idea if I'd be a good candidate though. I had fertility issues of my own and I'm overweight. I have no idea what makes a good candidate. I'm also already 32 years old and want to BF this LO for awhile and getting pregnant again would interfere with that, plus we'd like to have a second. So I don't know if I even could but it's definitely something I'd consider. I have to get through this birth though and see how I do.


The guidelines really vary depending on if it's a private arrangement or through an agency.  Some agencies have strict guidelines about age/bmi/previous history, etc.  Others are more lax.  And if you have an arrangement directly with the parents, it's all up to their doctor and how comfortable s/he is with your history.  Same with birth.  I know of lots of surrogates who birth at home.  You just have to find a couple who is comfortable with it.  But your DH's right, MOST people will want a hospital birth, just like most regular moms will want one.  I think most surrogates are under 38-40, but there's a much wider acceptable age range than with egg donors, obviously.

 

I went through a large, well-known agency because I wanted to make sure all bases were covered and everything panned out the way we all wanted it to.  I would not go with the same agency again.  I felt like I was being "handled" a lot of the time, and that they were pressuring me to conform to the agency's views and preferred way of doing things.  Smaller agencies are often much more flexible and personal.  I also had to be under an OB's care (which I hated, even though my OB has a reputation for being very "midwifey") and give birth in a hospital, no exceptions, due to their policy and the specific insurance they required every set of parents to purchase for their surrogate (which sucked big time...it took me over a year to get a couple claims paid).

 

Overall, though, it was a great experience and I'm really glad I did it.  If you're looking into it, I would recommend the message board: surromomsonline.com.  There is tons and tons of information about every aspect of surrogacy and you can place/read ads as potential surrogates or intended parents.  There are some weirdos on there, just like with every message board, though.  Women who have done 8 or 9 surrogacies, start a new surrogacy 3 months after giving birth, and hope for high-order multiples...I've also seen horrible scam situations.  One woman matched with a couple privately, had semen sent to her for insemination, and pretended to be pregnant, then went through this whole charade where she lost the baby and would not send said fictional baby's ashes to the parents...all for attention.  Awful.  Also, don't visit the parenting forum there.  Just don't.  Otherwise it's a great resource, lol.

 

post #25 of 348


Yeah, i opted for Vitanica over Floradix (my MW had both) because it was much cheaper.  But it still has added nutrients and herbs.  I feel better and I've only been taking them a week!

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Those look cheaper! I might try them. Floradix is around $27 for a 12 day supply. And it tastes icky. All that trouble, and it's not really helping. I am never anemic when I am not pregnant, but always anemic during pregnancy. Oh well. At least I have an excuse for sleeping 9-10 hours a night/ day!
 



 



 

post #26 of 348

28 weeks is when your blood volume increases a lot, so in theory water and iron should be giving my body more to work with as I'm making all this new blood.....

post #27 of 348
Thread Starter 

I just had my first official midwife appointment here in Illinois!  I'm spilling a tiny amount of protein in my urine, but she seemed unconcerned.  I'm measuring 2cm behind, but that's classic me... always measuring small.  And the baby's heart rate was a crazy 225!  I asked her to listen again at the end of the appointment and it was 155.  So not sure what that was, but I guess this baby just must be super responsive.  It was kicking at the fetoscope.  lol.gif   Gender prediction says that's a girl!   Oh, and it's head down!  So that's good. 

post #28 of 348

Glad your appt went well, Jaimee! thumb.gif

post #29 of 348

Well, I wonder if I will be the first to give birth?? Haven't even made it to October, yet!

 

My waters broke last night (at 32 wks) so we are now in L&D at the hospital. Everything looks fine - waters are clear and odorless, I'm not having contractions (waters broke 15 hrs ago, now) other than BH, but nothing painful or anything.

 

Doctor says she wants me to stay pregnant as long as possible and wants to intervene only as absolutely needed, and I am thankful for that. I am on antibiotics to prevent any infections, and I've gotten a steroid shot to help baby's lungs.

 

I had an ultrasound yesterday and the numerous body parts they measured were measuring in at 35w5d-36w2d and the doctor said he's over 5 pounds already! She was really happy about that and said he looks very healthy.

 

Baby's HB is strong and smooth and he isn't showing any signs of distress. He's still doing his super gymnastics in my tum, as normal! He had the hiccups a few minutes ago lol.gif

 

Anyway, just trying to stay calm and not panic about the fact that we are SO not ready (but maybe more ready than some). I am trying to be positive about the fact that I bought a ton of baby clothes at goodwill and already got a crib from CL and my parents bought us a stroller/carseat and everything and I've got cloth diapers... but nothing is freshly washed and the crib is still in pieces in the garage! Eep!

 

 

post #30 of 348
Thread Starter 

Wow!!  That's big news!!  That must have been very surprising and scary.  I'm sorry!  hug2.gif   I'm so glad to hear that everything about baby looks good and you're feeling pretty positive about what has happened, considering.  It is possible for the bag of waters to reseal... have they talked about that possibility and sending you home on bed rest? 

 

Don't worry about all the stuff that hasn't been done yet at home.  Everything will fall into place and you can always get assistance from friends/family or even hire a postpartum doula to help out.  Baby can sleep with you until the crib is assembled (or not use the crib at all...).

 

Please keep us updated!!!!  Thinking of you and sending resealing thoughts!!  goodvibes.gif

post #31 of 348

Oh my gosh, Luna! Wow! You must be in total shock. I'm so glad to hear everything looks good. Keep us updated.

post #32 of 348

Whoa Luna!  I'm glad everything is looking good so far.  Keep us updated!

post #33 of 348
Wow Luna. That's great they think he's already 5lbs already. Keep us updated.
post #34 of 348

Hi girls! Everything is still going fine. It's been 24 hours now since my waters broke and still no signs of labor - only BH contractions and no pain.

 

The doctor this morning did say that I am on hospital bedrest until baby is born, so there's no chance of me going home, sadly! Oh, how I would LOVE LOVE LOVE that! My bed is calling me... sounds so heavenly right now. The hospital bed is subpar. And she said that baby could be born in two days or two weeks or two months - that they will play it all by ear. She said every day that I am pregnant is a good day.

 

DH and I have had time today to discuss some of our fears and concerns and I think we're doing much better, now. I think we've got a temporary solution for the dogs and I'm just not as concerned about the baby clothes  and the cloth diapers I have not washed. And the crib we have is for doing a side-car to our bed, so we plan to co-sleep (we have a queen size bed and I just don't think we'd have enough room without the side-car arrangement). The crib just needs to be assembled and that should be an easy task for DH or my parents. And my parents can do the laundry, too thumb.gif

 

Our biggest concern... WE DON'T HAVE A MIDDLE NAME PICKED OUT!!! ROTFLMAO.gif

 

Anyhow, that's all for now! I will keep you all updated!! Thanks for the love and support love.gif

post #35 of 348

It sounds like things are going about as well as can be expected, Luna! I hope he stays in a good bit longer, though I can't imagine how badly you want to be home.

 

As far as the middle name, by DS had NO name until 4 days old. It'll work itself out. :)

post #36 of 348

hug2.gif Luna - I'm glad to hear that everyone is doing well, even if the situation sucks.  Hopefully he'll stay in there for a few more weeks.   Please keep us updated! 

post #37 of 348

I just had to share a funny story. I thought you'd all appreciate this.

 

Last night I was walking around in too tight short shorts and a pre-pregnancy t-shirt that left my belly hanging out. I was having bad allergies and a runny nose so I just stuffed my nose with tissue and let it sit. Hubby came over, kissed my forehead, and said, "You look so hot." COMPLETELY joking with me. I was like, "What, you don't like this get-up? Not even the belly hanging out?"

 

He replied with, "It's bigger than a muffin top. You're sporting a whole cake top!" ROTFLMAO.gif

 

I went jaw.gif , "Wow, insulting!" And he goes, "What? You're pregnant."

 

That's his response to everything. "You're pregnant." It cracks me up. So now for the rest of the pregnancy my expanding belly is being referred to as a cake top....... eyesroll.gif

post #38 of 348

Luna, you're in my thoughts! I'm glad to hear the baby is 5 pounds already. All your feelings are perfectly normal I'm sure! I will probably still feel unprepared past my due date.

post #39 of 348

Wow Luna, best wishes!  

 

Cake top.  I'm going to have to tell that to DH, he's gonna die laughing.

post #40 of 348

Wow, Luna! You've had an exciting weekend. I'm glad everything is looking good and you really sound like you're in good spirits. Keep it up! My nephew was born last March at 32 weeks and he is doing great, just for reference. winky.gif

 

As for me... I'm so grouchy lately. I feel like I'm in the last few weeks of pregnancy but I still have 8 weeks to go. My body just feels done. I'm trying so hard to just enjoy being pregnant but I'm not enjoying it anymore. I went into this pregnancy wanting to appreciate every moment. We are undecided on having more than 2 kids, so it's possible this is my last pregnancy. I just want to relish in it. But I feel horrible. My days start out okay, but by lunch time I'm so uncomfortable and everything hurts. I can't keep up with my 2.5 year old anymore and it seems like everything she does gets on my nerves. I hate being so impatient with her and I'm trying so hard to stay positive for her, but it's getting harder by the day. It makes me want to cry to think I have 8 more weeks of this.

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