kylaskye - Wow, breastfeeding in public is super challenging, for me. I am already super self-conscious about it and try so hard to not show my nip but in the heat it is really hard to cover with a blanket. I am not comfortable breastfeeding in front of DP's parents even!
I second what PP said about everything taking so much longer with a baby. I knew it would take longer, but I really had no idea how much longer and how much work it takes to get myself and DD ready. And, I have definitely felt very overwhelmed a few times and have taken my frustration out on DP without thinking. The first time I went to the grocery store and tried to do a couple of errands I totally admit that I felt a bit, ummm, suffocated. It was just for a few moments, and I think only because I was so used to only thinking about myself. I don't know, maybe that sounds horrible to say. I feel like I prepared very well for a baby, and I would not change a thing, but still its an adjustment, ykwim? Hmmm. LOTS of changes!!!
For those of you struggling with older siblings, I also can not even imagine how challenging that must be! My goodness, I can barely take care of myself and this little babe!
Also, PP mentioned a sling. I have two slings but they just aren't working for us. I don't feel like DD is secure in them. They probably don't fit right. I have an Infantino front carrier that a friend picked up for me at a yard sale and I am loving it. Its a pain in the ass to get on and get the baby in it, but once she's in it its working great. It makes me really, really want to find the money to get an Ergo!!!
love4bob - I have been using a nipple shield. One of the nurses in the hospital got frustrated with me and said that was the only way DD would nurse because my nipples are "flat". (DD was in for seven days on IV antibiotics so we were stuck there and there was no internet access available.) (Really, my milk had just come in and my breasts were engorged because she had latched perfectly the first couple of days, but anyways. . . ) At first I felt awful about it, but three weeks later we are still using it and I am honestly really liking it. Its different for everybody of course, but its working for us. And, my nipples are finally not sore. And eating is a rewarding experience for us both now. I hated seeing her get so frustrated every time I tried to feed her.
And, AFM - just wanted to complain really quick. Caroline was born August 17. We finally got out of the hospital August 23. DP had to go back to work August 24. August 25 - September 1 we moved 45 minutes away.
I love, love, LOVE our new place. I feel so much safer here.
But, the unpacking . . . we are still living out of boxes!!! DP has been working constantly. And when he hasn't been working he's been cleaning the old apartment so that we can get some of our security deposit back. So, he has been almost NO help. Family helped us with the move, but the unpacking has been almost all on me. And, I've gotta start making phone calls to change our address, and I've been pumping to build up my milk supply for when I go back to work in two weeks (!!!).
I love this new home, but it feels so filthy and cluttered and messy.
I wanted to unpack this morning, but by the time I emptied the litter boxes and washed the dishes . . . DD was hungry AGAIN.
But, it will all get done. SLOWLY, but it'll get done!!! My goodness. Its just hard because DP goes to work all day and he doesn't say much, but I know he comes home and is like, ugh, what has she been doing all day? Oh well. He knows and I know, we're doing what we can. . . it is just slow going.
Oh and, thanks BabyCakes for setting up the social group!! :) Much appreciated!!