Originally Posted by kylaskye
When we got home he flipped out that I didn't bring a bottle for convenience. I don't want to have to pump every time I feed him a bottle when I'm out in public. I tried explaining that to him but it didn't seem like he got the message. I can't just pump at home and feed a bottle when I'm out and keep up my supply like he thinks I can. ("I don't have a problem with you showing everybody your fucking tit." When I asked if he had a problem with it.) It's bad enough I only used one side while we were out because of the car or where we were at it was easier to nurse on my right side, and when I got home my left was too hard for him to take and I had to express before he would stop fussing at my breast.
Really? Where did all of this come from? I didn't have a baby for convenience and I made sure to plan for extra time so we wouldn't have any issues. He had to get back home so he could get to work on time. He leaves for work 30 minutes early, and that's fine when it's a normal night. Well we got home with an hour before he had to be at work. Work is not even 5 minutes away from home, and he was complaining about how we barely made it. WTF is that man's problem?
It is an adjustment for us when the baby comes, and it is also an adjustment for the men too, they just tend to be less logical about it... or too logical?! I don't know. Hopefully he will get it soon, sorry you had to endure the brunt of his frustration. Dh was weird the first few times I NIP, but they get over it eventually... I just don't think he was prepared for it, I thought about it my whole pregnancy and talked about it with other Moms who were all pro BFing, the first time I NIP in public was the first time he ever even thought about it.
Angie - Thinking of you and hoping BFing gets better. I used nipple shields for several weeks with my first and I did not think they were the worst thing in the world and once she weaned off of them her latch did not cause me any pain (that I remember).
Originally Posted by katiemaeeee
I love this new home, but it feels so filthy and cluttered and messy.
I wanted to unpack this morning, but by the time I emptied the litter boxes and washed the dishes . . . DD was hungry AGAIN.
But, it will all get done. SLOWLY, but it'll get done!!! My goodness. Its just hard because DP goes to work all day and he doesn't say much, but I know he comes home and is like, ugh, what has she been doing all day? Oh well. He knows and I know, we're doing what we can. . . it is just slow going.
Oh and, thanks BabyCakes for setting up the social group!! :) Much appreciated!!
I could not imagine moving so soon PP, but I am glad you are in a place that you love! It will take time to get it all done, but you will get there. Maybe you should ask DP what he really is thinking... I think we often put higher expectations on ourselves than we need too, it might feel good to know that your partner is not thinking bad things when he comes home, and if he is it would be a good time to tell him what more reasonable expectations would be. Getting anything done with a baby it very difficult, you are a Mom now, and not that that should come before your partner, but it does come before cleaning or doing other everyday things.
Originally Posted by Peony
Tired, tired. It is one of those days where you finally get home and are thrilled that you managed to get everyone where they needed to be that day, play group, speech therapy, school pick up, soccer, gymnastics. Exhausted, certainly not feeling like super mom, but hey they are alive! And then your 2 year manages to open his older sister's meds and eat the entire bottle in 2 minutes. Sigh. He is doing ok, waiting for the puking to start though. Guess I won't be going to bed anytime soon.
Getting DD1 to school is about all I can handle! I have not even signed her up for any other activities yet because I just don't think I can take it! I think next month we will start dance again... I hope the 2 year old is doing OK and you got some rest!
Originally Posted by cat13
Ugh, having a rough day today. Taking abx for mastitis, while praying that the thrush (that we finally got rid of!) doesn't come back. And I just got stung by a centipede twice on my stomach while I was nursing DS. Thank god he didn't get stung!
Originally Posted by FischK
Weight: at 5 days PP - Tuesday - I had lost 8 lbs, less than the weight of the baby. Of course, so shortly after the c/s my body was still full of excess water and my ankles were about twice their normal size. After that shock, I will wait until I'm 2 wks pp to do another weigh-in. Even though since I've begun taking Zoloft preventively for PPD, I'm probably never going to lose the remaining 30 lbs.
Clothes: I'm still recovering from the c/s and I rarely leave the house. But I am out of my pg-sweatpants and back in normal oversized sweatpants, which makes me feel somewhat less bulgy. And the best thing is they don't slide off my body like 95% of my pants did pre-birth. I call that success!
Feeding issues: Saw LC yesterday and she worked with me on improving A's latch. She ruled out a tongue-tie, but suggested I see someone about his jaw, which seemed very tight to her. She said OMT (?) could help him to stop chewing up my nipples and start sucking instead. Alternatively, we will have to hope he outgrows the tightness. OUCH.
I am not sure what OMT is, but have you considered taking him to a Chiropractor? I have taken both of my last two shortly after birth. Sometimes minor birth trauma can cause breastfeeding issues and chiros can help work them out.
Originally Posted by Beckily
Emotionally supportive and emotionally dependent are very different things. I'm all for supportive, not so much for the dependency. Also, you don't have to clarify to us, but if that "something bad" thing strikes you as it does us.. do get that clarified. And good luck :)
AFU - Kendra has her first cold already, it is not horrid and she is still sleeping reasonably well, but I hate sucking her nose out! She screams bloody murder, I am sure the neighbors can hear her in the middle of the night!
Re weight - I have not gotten on the scale recently, and I have not even tried regular jeans on, I am still wearing my smaller maternity shorts that I outgrew earlier in the summer. I know my thighs are still too big for my normal shorts. I am sure I have some 'fat' jeans for after my previous pregnancies that fit and I need to pull them out this weekend since the weather is getting cooler. Shirts are what is really bugging me. Maternity ones look ridiculous and Pre-pregnancy ones are way too short since my boobs and tummy are bigger, I need to go pick up a few cheap t-shirts from Target or something.