My child is in Kindergarten at this awesome charter school, and we are all very happy with it so far. This week they announced that they are doing an assembly on Friday, which ALL students are required to attend, but which parents are prohibited from because of fire safety laws in the assembly hall (there's room for the entire student body & teachers, but nobody else). The assembly will be a 9/11 memorial. They have promised there will be no graphic images, and I'm sure there won't be, just songs by the school chorus and a few brief speeches by a couple of teachers, to whom my 5-year-old is not likely to pay much attention to. Still...we have not as parents addressed this part of history with her, and because we won't be there we can't really know how it was presented. As a friend of mine said, hopefully the kids will come away from the assembly with the impression that firefighters and police-people are heroes, instead of the fear that an airplane could fly into their house sometime soon. I don't know....my husband and I talked about it, and we decided not to make a big deal about it, but I'm still left with a weird feeling....if they had offered a choice to have your child attend or not, or made it "mandatory" for the older kids, but not for the ones who weren't even born when this happened, depending on how the parents feel about it....I just feel like this was pushed on us, and not by the media, which you'd expect, since it is after all the 10 year anniversary, but by her school. Her school that prides itself on NOT being entirely beholden to state education requirements and claims a learning philosophy based on individualism and democratic principles.
Maybe I'm just a typical middle class educated stay-at-home-mom over-thinking a perfectly legitimate event in my child's life that will, realistically, be no more than a blip on her radar screen for now. But I have a pretty precocious kid, if I do say so myself, and it's equally likely that she'll come home with lots of questions and worries on Friday afternoon. Also, it's not like 9/11 wasn't anything personal to me and my husband and therefore we want to protect our children from exposure to it as long as possible. We had family there, and they had friends we knew who died. But memorials are for grown-ups who experienced the event being remembered. Not for young children who barely understand what it means to be dead.
Am I psycho? :(