Nothing yet. We tried to set something like that up. The Cozi Family Calendar or something. I could start maintaining that again.
We had our first baby 10 years ago. It will be hard to go back that far and get hard evidence that I was the one who did all this stuff. I guess it would be helpful to have examples of what I could obtain.
I will start a journal tonight and go forward with it in regards to what our daily routine is like.
As far as looking at myself, I am in the middle of a DCF investigation (done, just waiting on the report. Claims unsubstantiated) and have had EVERYTHING looked at with scrutiny already. Even my therapist!
He has NPD and has been emotionally and psychologically abusing me for years. He has the ability to make me question myself. The DCF inquiry actually showed me that I AM a good parent and while I make mistakes, I don't have to be perfect.
I was a BFing, cosleeping parent, am a GDing parent (though that has occasionally drifted but we are back on track now). I worked full-time (laid off 2 weeks ago), maintained a house, managed 3 kids on my own with a slew of activities, and scraped to make ends meet. I didn't do an amazing job, but the kids stayed healthy, did well in school and always had what they needed. My son was diagnosed as a Type I diabetic in June, he's been very stable and I don't have the option of slacking as a mom and I haven't.
I feel this is his last ditch effort at controlling me. I left him to have a better life and he is determined to prove that my life is nothing without him. Up to including using the kids against me. He is a bad man. There are no two ways about it. My parents tell me I kid myself when I say he's a good dad. I don't know. The kids are happy when they are with him and they love him. With this smack talking lately I'm only now questioning his fitness to care for them. I just can't believe he would say that stuff to them. :(
*sigh* I'll just keep plugging along like I have been and let the lawyers and courts do their thing.