So here it is, the teacher has the kids in pods and every day a different kid monitors the others and puts check marks down by their name for extensive talking or messing around. The system actually works quite well and the kids are generally respectful of each other. Last night DD1 told us that the boy next to her bribes her when he's the monitor. If he wants something she has he will give her numerous check marks by her name and tell her he'll remove them if she gives him something she has. DD1 is really upset about it. He also poked her numerous times with his pencil or finger to get a response out of her and then would put a check next to her name if she made a sound.
Now, DD1 refuses to tell on him she hates to do it. No matter how much I try to convince her that it's the right thing to do as he'll just continue and do it to the next kid he sits by.
So I explained this to the teacher and begged her not to make a big deal out of it but rather watch for it or maybe address the issue without out finger pointing. I don't want DD1 to not trust me but I really don't know if I can sit back and let this happen, as last year it just got ugly between her and another kid. They know she won't tell and they will continue to mess with her. And it's always a boy that does this. Just not a good message in my opinion.
Seriously moms what would you have done? Should I have just let it go, stomped my happy butt in there and talked to the teacher even though DD1 would be really upset with me or was it ok for me to email her with the details of the problem?