Seriously...how do you do it? I feel like I've worried so much about consistancy that all I ever do is ride him and nitpick and overcorrect. I'm so afraid that if I ignore the negative and praise the positive, the ignoring of the negative will be seen as tacit approval (he has a touch of narcissism and acts like he is the king of the world and can do no wrong and anyone who criticizes him is an unworthy idiot).
But then I keep reading blogs and articles and such that say that when it's obviously the disorder making them act "disobediently" you should just let it go because it truly is beyond their control.
If I start to refrain from gentle correction when ds uses a nasty tone of voice with me, or shoulder checks me into the wall, or starts breaking stuff up in his room, am I teaching him that those things are socially acceptable? Where do I draw the line and give a consequence?
He is 9yo and extremely intelligent, if that matters.