I'd love some perspectives on this.
I don't have much of a relationship with my stepson's mom. But, from what I can tell, she's a good mom with her own strengths and weaknesses. One of her weaknesses, similar to my husband, is promptness!
My stepson started middle school this year, and they are really strict on the arrival time. Because of my husband's weakness in this area, I set up a system at family meeting. Stepson brainstormed on everything he needs to do to get ready for school. We estimated the leaving time and the wake-up time. Dad also got his list of things to do. The rule, which stepson loves!, was set up that no one is allowed to nag anyone about their chores until the other is ready to go.
This system has worked well for about a month, and stepson has never been late on our time. Yeah!
Ok, I'm sure this is obvious where this is going. Stepson came to me upset today because he has detension for having 6 tardies in a month. The tardies list is online, so its clear that these are all on his moms time.
I really feel for him. I think it stinks that he is being penalized because his mom is late in the morning. He wants advice, but I really dont want to overstep my bounds by offering too much advice about his moms household. (Im sure she could have many complaints about our house)
How would people navigate this?