Are you going to find out the sex?

[whovian21]

This is our first pregnancy.  At first, we couldn't wait until we got to find out the sex, but now, we're thinking about waiting until our little jellybean is born.  With his son, they decided to know the sex.  We want to know because it helps with planning and showers and the like, but waiting is more traditional and keeps up the suspense.  What are y'all going to do?

[Janel47]

I found out with the first two.  I have always been a bit of a super planner when it comes to my kids.  I thought I HAD to know, until a few days before DD2's ultrasound and I suddenly changed my mind, but that was too late for DH and I couldn't talk him into waiting.  :) 

Now... I am so glad we're not finding out!  It is making the first half of the pregnancy much more laid back because I'm not on pins and needles waiting to find out.  I can super-plan all I want to.  Buying clothes is hardest because there is so little actual neutral stuff out there since almost everyone finds out, but virtually everything else (for me at least) is easy enough to plan for without knowing the gender.  I am really looking forward to finally having that moment when we see our baby for the first time and finding out then.  It definitely seems worth it to me! 

Showers aren't hard at all... my sister didn't find out for most of her kids and I helped throw her showers, usually before the birth.  Baby "stuff" is easy to get gender neutral, and easier to sell or pass on if it is.  She got some neutral clothes, but more often people would buy her one boy and one girl outfit with receipts to exchange one after the baby came.  There are plenty of neutral shower themes.  Or if you could just wait until after the baby comes. 

[Lolafanana]

We found out with #1 and not with #2 and we are not finding out with this one.  

With our first, I knew  from the start she was a girl so when we were asked if we wanted to know, i said, "yes, just tell me she is a girl"  and they did!

With my second, I also knew from the start that he was a boy but still wanted to wait.  i had no question in my mind as to the gender but it was amazing to see the proof when he was born.  It was the BEST feeling, which is why we will do it again!

[Janel47]

Any premonitions this time?  Like with my other two, I originally thought girl but have been regularly flip-flopping ever since, usually thinking boy.  So probably girl.  :)  DH has been adamant that it's a girl all 3 times. 
 

Originally Posted by Lolafanana 

We found out with #1 and not with #2 and we are not finding out with this one.  

With our first, I knew  from the start she was a girl so when we were asked if we wanted to know, i said, "yes, just tell me she is a girl"  and they did!

With my second, I also knew from the start that he was a boy but still wanted to wait.  i had no question in my mind as to the gender but it was amazing to see the proof when he was born.  It was the BEST feeling, which is why we will do it again!

[SophiaPLUS2]

I've had lots of gender/baby dreams. The first was my grandmother (who passed away) with TWO babies. Talk about freaked me out! The next I had a boy and recently I gave birth to a 10 lb baby girl in my Grandmother's (same one) living room! I feel like I'm having a girl and I would be so happy about that since I'm naming my next DD after my G-ma! 

A boy would be very appreciated though. I'm torn! 

[SophiaPLUS2]

Oh and we are DEFINITELY finding out the sex! 

[SageR]

I would love to be suprised at delivery but we'll find out.  This baby is such a bonus it doesn't make a difference to me what we're having, but everyone else is so anxious for a girl.  I hope finding out halfway will give them plenty of time to get over being disappointed if we are having another boy. I knew ds #2 was a boy but I'm getting nothing with this babe.  So either way I guess it will be a suprise.

Most of our stuff was gender neutral just because I prefer plain things.  I didn't find it difficult to find things online.

[candelaria80]

We found out the sex with our first.  There are no girls on DH's side of the family and everyone absolutely thought DD was a boy, it was a great surprise! 

This time we decided not to have any ultrasounds, unless it is medically necessary of course, so we are not finding out.  At first I was a little bummed, but now we are super excited.  I cannot wait to hear "it's a ____"!   My family is a little disappointed, they really want to start purchasing, but that is another bonus.  Last time we had EVERY piece of baby gear you could imagine and barely used anythng except for the carriers and the co-sleper, so we are trying to aquire less this time round.

Edited by candelaria80 - 9/9/11 at 4:11pm

[Bobbys]

We are finding out the sex. We are so sure it's a girl that if they do tell us it's a boy, we'll be shocked. I have a son, so we'll need to get baby girl clothing. I also have a doting mother and mother in law who love to shop and a baby girl is too good an excuse for them to pass up.

[lizsky]

I think I could handle waiting if I skipped the 20week ultrasound altogether.  But  it would drive me crazy to know that the technician knew the sex of my baby and I didn't!!  

We found out with DD and I think it was a good thing for me- I had it in my head that I'd be having a boy- in both my family and DHs the oldest is a boy, so it was hard for me to visualize our family with an oldest daughter.  I wasn't sad to learn that she was a girl, just surprised- it was nice to have 20 weeks to get used to the idea and very excited about meeting her.  We will find out again with this baby.  

[cameragirl]

We're planning on scheduling a gender determination u/s at or after 16 weeks. My OB has their own u/s suite, but they don't allow kids. That leaves DD feeling really left out, since she can't go to appointments, either. She's totally into babies right now, too. She's been watching every single show about babies on tv with the passion of a future midwife. Otherwise, we'd probably wait until the anatomy scan to find out.

[catters]

I want to find out, but DH is adamant on waiting for the big reveal.  But since he can never make any of my appointments, I'll be all alone at my 20 week ultrasound... I mean, if the tech just sort of puts it up there on the screen, I've looked at plenty of US to know what I'm looking at if it's a clear shot... If I get that kind of clarity, I'll be cool, but won't tell DH since I won't be "sure", but I just sort of want to know.  I keep hearing how it's such an amazing feeling hearing at birth, but I'm sure I'll get over that!  As for stuff?  Seriously, we are not buying anything at all.  I'll probably get a new Ergo or beco or something because our old one is really getting worn out, and maybe a special gender neutral coming home outfit, but other than that, I'll be washing a lovely assortment of cute newborn things that both DS and DD wore, and new baby will be undoubtedly be very comfy in them.  :) 

[Lolafanana]

Originally Posted by Janel47 

Any premonitions this time?  Like with my other two, I originally thought girl but have been regularly flip-flopping ever since, usually thinking boy.  So probably girl.  :)  DH has been adamant that it's a girl all 3 times. 
 

i feel really strongly that this is a girl.  I will actually be really shocked if it's a boy!  because of this, a big part of me wants to find out to see if I'm right but in the long run, i love the guessing game and that beautiful surprise at the end!

[cameragirl]

I think I'm growing a girl. Some people say boy, but most everyone close to me thinks it is a girl, too.

[hartfelt]

as long as the babe is cooperative we are going to find out. we are hoping to have the anatomy scan around 20 weeks, and that be our one and only ultrasound. if for some reason they can't see the sex, then i guess we will just have to wait. i would really like to know so that i can plan for a boy if thats the case. if its a girl, i'm all set. my intuition tells me girl..... we'll see!

[cocoabean8]

Nope.  Not a chance.  We didn't find out with the other two and since we have one boy and one girl, it is no big rush to buy clothes.  I love surprises!!

[Fly Girl]

We're not finding out. We found out with both of our DD's even though I wanted the second one to be a surprise. I had no feeling one way or the other with DD1 but I knew for sure with DD2 that she was a girl. I knew DH was really hoping to have a boy with #2 so I think it helped him to have some time to get over the little bit of disappointment. This time we both are happy to wait until the birth to find out. I think DH is just expecting that we are having a 3rd girl but I really feel like this one is a boy. I am planning on telling my midwife not to announce the sex when he/she is born. I'd like to look and find out for myself.

As a fun side note, yesterday DD1 finally "got it" that mommy has a baby in her tummy. And today she is insisting that she is having a baby brother. So I guess she has the same intuition that I do. So I guess we'll see 

[Janel47]

I had a dream last night that my baby was about 2 days old and I was trying to figure out if I had a boy or a girl... I finally came to the conclusion that it was a girl because I was using a nursing pillow covered in princess fabric.  HAHA!  Pregnancy dreams crack me up.  Not to mention, this little nursing session was in the middle of my attempts to bring to light a conspiracy about an astronaut masquerading as a bible study leader in order to use a church to store his spaceship. 

[bcblondie]

We found out with DS and never regretted it. But with my last pregnancy (which miscarried) they told us we couldn't find out anymore because people were aborting. So when I got pregnant this time I assumed the rule was the same. I got used to the idea of not finding out. So when they told us we COULD... well now we don't want to lol.

[cameragirl]

We got rid of a lot of things, thinking we wouldn't be able to get pregnant again. I have all the girl clothes, but for a baby born in late July, not early March. I'm sure a lot of it would be useable with layering and what not...but we'd be out of luck if it were a boy. I was given only a few outfits that were unisex, and the few I bought were for Halloween. Were it not for the tight budget and needing to shop, and my family planning a shower, I think I could handle waiting. It seems my husband and everyone else can't, though.