So, reading the thread about L&D gifts makes me wonder about MW gifts. Honestly it all makes me a little uncomfortable. I think I am often awkward about receiving gifts so maybe its just my issue. But I also hate giving things that are unneeded or unwanted. It feels wasteful to me. Even though I realize people generally appreciate the impulse. I am also a little-- socially awkward is not exactly the right term. I am just not one of those people that makes instant BFFs. So I have great working relationships with people like midwives, teachers, etc, but we aren't going out for mani-pedis together or anything.
Now I wonder what other people do. I am low income (and the MWs know it, since they accept my medicaid), and frankly in the PP time I just can barely keep myself and my kids together, let alone be making or shopping for gifts (that I can't afford) for people I only know in a very limited way.
With my second I had a HB. We offered theater tickets to the MWs (my husband worked in the props department at a great regional theater and could get free tickets that were excellent seats, like 3rd row center) but the MWs didn't really seem interested. They never took us up on it. Then, since I knew my MW was gluten free and eating fairly low carb, I asked her would she like a chocolate-tofu pie in a nut crust (homemade) and she said YES very emphatically, so I dropped one off at her office one day. (We had talked food a lot b/c of my diet-controlled GD.)
Of course, I will have good food and beverages stocked in the house and if I were to have a long labor I would also order in more for the whole birth team. My mom lives upstairs and I know she would also be sure everyone is being fed well. I'll make sure we have the takeout menus handy for local places (one good thing about NYC is you can have almost anything delivered). But, last time my MWs were there for only a few hours- baby was born about 10 minutes after they walked in the door. They seemed awfully happy that they got to go home at 8PM and other than grabbing a few snacks (I think) they were focused on working not eating.
DH now works in the visual display department at a fairly high end (and very nice) women's clothing and house goods company and gets a significant discount, so we could get them something from there. But it feels so funny to be shopping for people whose personal taste we don't really know. Meh. Maybe I will go down there some time and look around to see if I am inspired. They do have lots of interesting things so something might jump out at us.
I know one of the MWs is insulin resistant and has a very careful diet (we've discussed diet at some length due to my own diet as well) so sweets wouldn't be a very thoughtful gift!
Or just flowers for their office when I make my 6 week visit?