Big HUGS to all of you in the first time mama club ... it's been a few years since I was there, but some things I figured out too slowly (or had to the learn the hard way ...
Originally Posted by SouthernStormy
It's definitely taking some time for us too. I feel like she sleeps most of the time, but yet I'm somehow still always busy with her.
The hardest part for me is figuring out how to be content with just being a mom. (I know that sounds horrible). I could never imagine putting her in daycare or leaving her with someone else, but I do miss the interaction with people from work and the fulfilled feeling I would get after a hard days work. Right now everything is so monotonous and its draining. I know it won't be like this forever, and in a year she'll be running all over the place and I'll probably look back and wish she was a teeny tiny newborn again that wanted to be held all the time.
Join a moms group. Call a church if you're comfortable with that & ask if they have one, check meetup.com, call public health ... find one. The one I ended up going to was a 'post-natal' baby class offered free by public health. From that 6 week 'class', we formed a weekly playgroup that met for almost a year. A few of us stayed in touch until about the 2yr mark, and I know almost everyone ended up with at least one closer friend long term. It's like a due-date club, in person. A group my sister goes to meets at a church, and does a crafty thing most weeks when they meet -- iron on appliques, or little christmas ornaments, decorating cookies, that sort of thing. Since they are all moms, they understand the mid-meeting interuptions etc. There's also stroller fitness groups all over the place.
It's not the same fulfillment as a hard day at work, but it gives you someone other than your DH to talk to about baby poop & spit up & sleeping ..
Originally Posted by karalynnskies
I feel just like you ladies do as things have been really rough at times. I am EBF and don't ever get a second to myself. At times I wish I could escape for just an hour for some me time. People tell you how tiring and emotionally taxing a newborn can be but nothing can prepare you!
And we are still trying to get the baby wearing thing down as well. I am not a huge fan of my moby but I do love my ring sling I got from sleeping baby productions. Her pleated cap sleeve is awesome. I still struggle with the fabric getting twisted in the rings and getting him positioned just right but for the most part I can get him in and adjusted enough that it works for our outings. And hes ok with it too because he usually just passes right out and stays out the whole time were out. I am still not comfortable doing a lot of chores around the house in it because I always feel like he is going to slip out for some reason.
When your babies are about 6 weeks or so, once you feel you've got your supply well established, and a bit of a routine figured out, book a manicure or a walk with a friend, or dessert ... something that won't take more than an hour, and LEAVE THE BABY WITH DADDY. Feed them right before you leave, and wear breast pads in case you start leaking all over before you get home. They will not starve before you get back, and it will help restore your sanity. Taking that ONE HOUR is like a miracle cure for the newborn isolation. I'm not saying go for dinner & a movie & leave baby with a sitter ... just their father. It'll be good for all of you!
For the baby wearing. I wore DS for nearly 4 years, and sewed & sold carriers, but I could never (and still can't) wear a NB in a one shoulder carrier of any sort and get anything done. Until their necks are stronger, I want them in a MeiTai or wrap if I want to be truly hands free & eat my supper, or MAKE my supper, or clean up anything ... or even, if I'm really lucky, get to sewing something new! :)
Originally Posted by kylaskye
How is everybody transitioning to being a mom?
I'm definitely overwhelmed sometimes. I feel like all my time is spent on Liam, and while I expected that, I didn't know how much it would effect me emotionally. It's a lot more straining that I thought it would be.
I'm trying to get the house and life back to some kind of normal, but I'm having trouble with that. I'm still working on getting my sling to work properly for us ( I think it's my huge boobs causing the issue) so I can only clean or do something while Liam is sleeping.
Anybody have any suggestions or tips? Something they figured out but wish they'd been told. I'm sure we could all use the advice.
See all the stuff above! :) It's really hard to be the ONLY person that this new little person is depending on, but when you get a few months down the road, and they are so much bigger then they are now, and you can look back and say "I did that .. I fed that baby, and nurtured that baby, and look at them now" It's such a great feeling. If you EBF, then you are really the only source of food for that baby for 15mths ... the 9 you're pregnant, and 6 more after that. So it is isolating & overwhelming, but the reward is great, and you CAN do it. Just remember to find the things that keep you sane and do them. If you need to go for a run, or a walk, or get a hair cut, or even simply get a shower, find a way to make it happen. Finn spent most of my showers his first year in his bouncy seat in the bathroom b/c he would be happy if I'd keep talking to him, and I'd be happy if I could have a shower that lasted more than 2 minutes!