Yup. I had 2 miscarriages, then a healthy pregnancy resulting in DS, who is almost four.
So it's been a while, and I'm over 40 now. I had my BFP 6 days ago, and I've tested every other day since. The most recent test (yesterday, on my birthday) is a little lighter than the previous one. I *know* that's not a reliable indicator, but I just don't want to be doing betas and early ultrasounds and all that, so I'll do three more tests, every 2 days, and if the color gets lighter still, I'll notify my provider. I don't even know how far along I am. (Wasn't temping or anything like that; had a short, light period that may have been a period or it may have been implantation bleeding, so there is variability of more than 3 weeks.) I am taking progesterone, and I'm supposed to go in for a dating ultrasound at 8-10 weeks, whenever that might be.
The thing that concerns me is my changing symptoms. I was EXHAUSTED last week - before I figured it out. I kept saying, "I haven't been this tired since I was pregnant." duh. At least it's not chronic fatigue! But this week, I'm not as tired - perhaps because I now know how to interpret it? I had cramping before I tested - and lots of cramping on Monday and Tuesday, which I vacillated between thinking it was round ligament, and that it was signs of miscarriage. Now that the cramping has subsided, I'm concerned. I'm somewhat sick in the mornings, but I do manage to get down a breakfast, whereas last week, I couldn't eat breakfast. Aarugh.
My lack of bleeding does not reassure me. My second miscarriage was a blighted ovum (anembryonic pregnancy), and I did not begin to bleed on my own. We followed it out with betas and then ultrasounds to be sure it was not a viable pregnancy, and I decided to let it happen "on it's own." I had to initiate bleeding with acupuncture and Chinese herbs at 12+ weeks because my body just was not kicking the little bugger out. I later learned that "blighted ovums" have no EVENT to tell the body it is no longer pregnant - no significant shift in hormones - so the bleeding doesn't always start on its own. And, in my case, it did not stop on its own. I bled for 3 months, and FINALLY went in for a D&C. In retrospect, I should have gone in sooner, but I was in a "I am woman and my body will do what it needs to do" phase. Once I got the D&C, I was (successfully) pregnant within 2 cycles. This time, if I know it is a miscarriage, I might jump on a D&C if it is offered. At least, I won't wait for 3 months. But I know that a lack of bleeding might be a blighted ovum or the progesterone keeping things going longer.
Sorry I write so much. I learned SO MUCH from these forums my first time around, and I feel compelled to share. Don't feel you need to respond to it all! I'm just putting it out there for the MDC masses.