Sorry, not sure if this should be in the adolescent forum? But, as it's school day related, I think this is ok?
Anyway, my 3/4 grade (8 and 9.5 yo) DDs love to play kick ball before school and at recess. We've had a problem with the boys excluding the girls. Or, when they're picking teams, if a girl picks a boy, the boy refuses to go to their team saying the boys are a "package deal".
My DD did try to work it out herself, tried talking to them etc... but, it didn't work and there is only 1 kickball field so it's not like she could go start another game.
So, after a few weeks of this, I talked to the teacher and it seemed to get better. Actually, she had her boyfriend (who does volunteer work at school) go out and play with the kids, sort of monitor things, encourage fair play etc.... and it seemed to get better but, only as long as someone is there watching.
Well, now it's happening again. For some reason, the kickball field is flooded and the kids have created a soccer area. So, my 9.5 yo was playing today and the boys are starting again. Telling DD that the girls are pestering them and can't they go play somewhere else.
These games are all just sort of pick up games - whoever is around plays - well, as long as you're a boy, whoever is around is welcome to play. These are school balls, school field etc... it's not like a boy brings a ball and wants to play with his friend. This is just a whole group of kids getting a game together.
I'm so tired of it. DD is very self assured and does try to stand up for herself but, she's getting so frustrated. And the problem is that there is only one kickball field and one other area for a soccer game. So, if they boys are out there, they seem to claim it as theirs and don't want the girls to play.
I don't want to keep going to the teacher but, I don't know how to handle this. Any thoughts?