My daughter pretty much night weaned the last few months of pregnancy when I had no milk. Then she started to drink a lot at night the last few weeks of pregnancy as my milk came in. I just didn't even think consequences and how I was going to handle things when the baby was born.
So now we are 9 days into the new baby being part of our house, and sleep is a nightmare. One wakes, then the other gets woken up, then both HAVE to nurse to sleep or they cry and cry. I cry too. My husband ends of taking the toddler for a drive in the middle of the night, or sitting with the baby in the foyer which is fairly sound proofed. The toddler has become very attached to the baby, and when they are separated ends up crying BABY BABY in the middle the the night almost inconsolably.
I feel like I have no choice but to night wean the 20 month old, and because baby is here it will have to be with Dad in a separate room. I could even stay at my parents as they are only 4 km away.
I just keep crying.. I don't know what the right thing is to do... I feel so bad. But I don't see a way through this unless Dad can settle her in the night instead of always me. Do we need to put Dad and 20 month old in a separate room? If we go through a few rough nights of getting her used to him, then reintroduce me, how likely is it she will automatically assume she can drink milk again at night? With everyone.. if I am there she only wants me. She has done 3 overnights with my mother, and they sleep together and she sleeps great. She might wake once and my mom just holds her in her arms and rocks her until she's asleep again. I swear she sleeps better for my mom than me.
Any advice and ideas appreciated.. I am just at my witts end. It's bothering me to that the baby is not getting the attention I would like him to have... because of the juggling two kids in the middle of the night.