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[polishprinsezz]

Originally Posted by babycatcher12 

I have some very opinionated family members who think that 4 was too many...eh. I'm kind of looking forward to not telling them and waiting for them to ask what's up. :) 

this is exactly why i have not said a word. i do not feel like dealing with them at the moment nr do they have to walk in my shoes.

[sarahlynne]

Linnie Three:  Creating a Signature -

At the VERY bottom of your profile page is a spot to add your signature - you have to scroll all the way down to see it.  If you are really new and don't have the option then i think you won't see it there, but i don't know about when they "allow" it to be set up.

I just had to search all over to find this info since i hadn't been on here since they changed the format and i lost my signature.  hth :)

[skeemama]

Originally Posted by callieollie 

Nice to you too TandN. I like it over here!!

I did progesterone pills inserted vaginally with my last pregnancy/miscarriage and started them again with this one. I started taking them 3 dpo and have continued but because my levels were so low even while on the pills, he felt that I needed shots this time. I'm already dreading doing it again. I can't imagine it will be as bad this time since now we know which part of it to pull (duh!?) but I still haven't figured out how to stand/lie and twist around to do it without tightening my butt muscle.  My butt is bruised and killing me today!  I really don't think dh will be able to do it. I think he'll try because he wants to help, but I can see him getting freaked out halfway and jumping and injecting it into my hip instead or something crazy. I am more nervous at the thought of him doing it than me doing it!  lol!

Just wondering...what are your progesterone levels?

[maryamrose]

Has anyone else been getting cervical twinges? They were pretty bad for me yesterday (not in intensity, but frequency). My midwife says that it's nothing to worry about unless there's severe cramping or any bleeding. It's just such a strange sensation.

[callieollie]

skeemama,

At my first testing, my progesterone was 13.  My doc said the average is 21 at that point.  I'm getting tested again today so we'll see how the shots are doing!  

[ruralrabbit]

Just wanted to weigh in on the heart rate/exercise stuff...ACOG used to recommend keeping your heart rate to 145 or so when exercising while pregnant, but that's no longer the case.  As long as there's no impact involved (skiing, basketball, etc.) then you're fine to keep it up if you were doing it before you were pregnant.  I lifted weights and taught high impact aerobics all the way through my last pregnancy and my doctor supported me in it.  She said that babies of women who exercise hard during pregnancy tend to be a bit smaller but much healthier - my healthy boy was 7 pounds 12 oz, so plenty big enough.  She did recommend that if I saw my heart rate hit 185 or so it was probably time to pull back (it wasn't unusual for me to push 200 when teaching full on).  You might find that your heart rate goes higher than usual with less activity, but I think most women find each day is different so it's worth just giving it a try and seeing how it goes.  If you're starting something new, you should probably talk to your doctor and find out what they recommend - you may find that you need to be more conservative in that case.   Whatever you do, make sure you're eating sufficiently and wisely to support the extra activity.  I found that made a huge (!!!) difference for me.

[mswmommy]

Name: K
Weeks/Days along: 7 weeks today, due 5/4
Appointments: We had our first appointment this morning and got to see the heart beat. 
Symptoms: tired, heart burn, acne.  Nausea has come full force this week.  Last time it only lasted through week 9, so fingers crossed.
Food: I wish I didn't have to eat.  Everything sounds terrible most of the time.  The moment something sounds possible, I eat it real fast before I change my mind.
Exercise: Toddler chasing mostly (my son turned 2 in August).  I also try to spend 30 minutes on the treadmill in the mornings, but not with my current nausea.

Thoughts: We're excited for this little one to complete our family, but scared of being able to find the energy for two kids.

[forestmushroom]

welcome MSWmommy!

[MeredithA]

Welcome MSW! That's so exciting that you got to see the heartbeat! 

[Astraia]

So I was totally thinking about going for no ultrasounds this pregnancy (except the one for the amnio, which I was strongly leaning towards not doing) and limited appointments, do nothing for awhile sort of deal.... But now I feel like I'll feel a LOT better if I can see the heartbeat in the next few weeks (is there REALLY a baby in there? Really?!?) and going ahead with the amnio. I didn't want to know the gender, but now I do. Bah. Indecision.

I'm already feeling slightly jealous of the people who've had ultrasounds and seen their little beans :)

[LinnieThree]

Thank you so much Sarahlynne- I will go and look for that now:)

Originally Posted by sarahlynne 

Linnie Three:  Creating a Signature -

At the VERY bottom of your profile page is a spot to add your signature - you have to scroll all the way down to see it.  If you are really new and don't have the option then i think you won't see it there, but i don't know about when they "allow" it to be set up.

I just had to search all over to find this info since i hadn't been on here since they changed the format and i lost my signature.  hth :)

[MeredithA]

Initially, I wanted to wait until the birth to find out the gender, but now, especially when I walk through the store and see all the baby clothes...I kind of want to know in advance! I completely understand that indecision! 

Also, I can't wait to get my 1st ultrasound. I want to see the little bean so bad and seeing the heartbeat would be really comforting. I'm kind of a mess worrying about miscarrying all the time. For example, my bbs don't hurt as much this morning as they did yesterday so I'm like omg my symptoms are going away!! DH is constantly telling me to stop worrying myself -- what is going to happen is going to happen. 
 

Originally Posted by Astraia 

So I was totally thinking about going for no ultrasounds this pregnancy (except the one for the amnio, which I was strongly leaning towards not doing) and limited appointments, do nothing for awhile sort of deal.... But now I feel like I'll feel a LOT better if I can see the heartbeat in the next few weeks (is there REALLY a baby in there? Really?!?) and going ahead with the amnio. I didn't want to know the gender, but now I do. Bah. Indecision.

I'm already feeling slightly jealous of the people who've had ultrasounds and seen their little beans :)

[skeemama]

Originally Posted by Astraia 

So I was totally thinking about going for no ultrasounds this pregnancy (except the one for the amnio, which I was strongly leaning towards not doing) and limited appointments, do nothing for awhile sort of deal.... But now I feel like I'll feel a LOT better if I can see the heartbeat in the next few weeks (is there REALLY a baby in there? Really?!?) and going ahead with the amnio. I didn't want to know the gender, but now I do. Bah. Indecision.

I'm already feeling slightly jealous of the people who've had ultrasounds and seen their little beans :)

Hi there Astraia,

Just wondering why (I might have missed it) you are doing amnio?

Curious more than anything?

Thank you.

I have not ever had any tests with any of my pregnancies.  
 

[pregnova]

Originally Posted by Astraia 

So I was totally thinking about going for no ultrasounds this pregnancy (except the one for the amnio, which I was strongly leaning towards not doing) and limited appointments, do nothing for awhile sort of deal.... But now I feel like I'll feel a LOT better if I can see the heartbeat in the next few weeks (is there REALLY a baby in there? Really?!?) and going ahead with the amnio. I didn't want to know the gender, but now I do. Bah. Indecision.

I'm already feeling slightly jealous of the people who've had ultrasounds and seen their little beans :)

lol, this period of not really knowing for CERTAIN that the little one inside you is doing well can be so nerve racking! I'm pretty set on doing this pregnancy unassisted, foregoing ultrasounds ect... but I have to say, when the day comes that I feel this little one kick, well...it will be one HAPPY day!!! At least then you can get some reassurance from baby's activity! 

[forestmushroom]

I am totally feeling the uncertainty about what to do.... I have never had an amnio, either..... and last baby we didn't find out the sex before birth.  I can see the benefits of both and I keep talking myself into and out of each option.... sigh.  Hormones don't make it easy to make decisions! 

We may be moving to a neighboring state as well in the next few months... which is really hard thinking about!  ugh.  Life is hard sometimes.

[sosurreal09]

Amnios increase fetal death, I would look into that.

I don't want any ultrasounds this pregnancy either. We don't plan to use doppler either. MW is cool with that but urged the use of doppler during labor (which I agreed to). I am nervous however b/c I just want to know if it's twins or not. After having all those dreams it would be nice to know for sure (and be able to prepare!)! Heck I am 6 weeks and already have a bump (small but noticeable to people who know me). I went to the mall with DD and someone asked me if I knew the sex yet! I was like "No way too early!"

I am not having too rough of symptoms besides acne, fatigue, aversions, gluten intolerance (seriously?!), trouble sleeping, and nausea (no vomit). However I had 0 with DD besides weight gain. As long as I eat really well and nutrient dense I feel pretty good. Nursing is going great! No issues there!

[sosurreal09]

Googled Amnio and found this HTH

"Miscarriage is the primary risk related to amniocentesis. The risk of miscarriage ranges from 1 in 400 to 1 in 200. In facilities where amniocentesis is performed regularly, the rates are closer to 1 in 400. Miscarriages can occur because of infection in the uterus, the water breaks or labor is induced prematurely." via http://www.americanpregnancy.org/prenataltesting/amniocentesis.html

Not the best odds....

[Astraia]

The reason for doing an amnio is that I carry Muscular Dystrophy. I have a 1 in 4 chance of passing it on to any child I have. Girls can carry (and are largely if not entirely unaffected by that) but boys can have the disease. It's a degenerative muscle disease. I carry one of the mildest forms, but it would still leave an affected child wheelchair bound by the age of 30 and also can affect large muscle organs (like the heart- my dad had a heart transplant at 35, and my cousin with it died at 32 of heart failure).

I'm considering not doing the amnio and just testing the baby, if it's a boy, whenever he's born. From what I understand it's just a blood test, but I need to double check that. If it's invasive, then (IMO) the amnio is better. My entire extended family and DH's entire extended family really really really want us to the amnio. We wouldn't abort (god no!) if the baby has MD, so it's just to "know." But I figure if I know during the pregnancy I'll be a mess, and if I find out after the baby is born at least I'll have that connection to the baby, more so than I would at 15 weeks of pregnancy, to help soften the blow a bit. But I really just can't decide on anything. DH wants me to do it. I'm undecided. I WOULD feel better if we got testing back saying the baby does NOT have MD, but what if it's positive? Ugh, I don't want to even think about it.

We did it with our other 2 kids. It was easy, comfortable, with no negative side effects at all for me. Not even any cramping after, which is pretty good. They're both fine.

SoSurrel- the miscarriage risks are actually lower than that. They've been doing further research and testing, and now the needles are slimmer, it takes less time, the doctors who do it (here, at least, I don't know how it is the states or even other Canadian provinces) do pretty much ONLY the amniocentsis, so they have tons of experience. I was told by my genetic counsellor that the risks of miscarriage are closer to 1 in 1600, and further research on my part turned up the same information. It was a big study group, too, I think 3400 women? I am a researcher when it comes to all things pregnancy/birth/baby, and there is no way I'd subject my kid to 1 in 400 chance of death just to find out about a genetic condition that won't effect the pregnancy or how I'd feel about the baby. Although... put that way... why am I even going for it with a 1 in 1600 chance of death? Bah. Now I don't want to do it again.

[skeemama]

Astraia, thank you for explaining.  My heart is with you.

We were offered tests by our midwife the first time we were pregnant & declined.

Never really put another thought to it.

Blessings!

[layne]

Originally Posted by Astraia 

 We wouldn't abort (god no!) if the baby has MD, so it's just to "know." But I figure if I know during the pregnancy I'll be a mess, and if I find out after the baby is born at least I'll have that connection to the baby, more so than I would at 15 weeks of pregnancy, to help soften the blow a bit. But I really just can't decide on anything. DH wants me to do it. I'm undecided. I WOULD feel better if we got testing back saying the baby does NOT have MD, but what if it's positive? Ugh, I don't want to even think about it.

We did it with our other 2 kids. It was easy, comfortable, with no negative side effects at all for me. Not even any cramping after, which is pretty good. They're both fine.

SoSurrel- the miscarriage risks are actually lower than that. They've been doing further research and testing, and now the needles are slimmer, it takes less time, the doctors who do it (here, at least, I don't know how it is the states or even other Canadian provinces) do pretty much ONLY the amniocentsis, so they have tons of experience. I was told by my genetic counsellor that the risks of miscarriage are closer to 1 in 1600, and further research on my part turned up the same information. It was a big study group, too, I think 3400 women? I am a researcher when it comes to all things pregnancy/birth/baby, and there is no way I'd subject my kid to 1 in 400 chance of death just to find out about a genetic condition that won't effect the pregnancy or how I'd feel about the baby. Although... put that way... why am I even going for it with a 1 in 1600 chance of death? Bah. Now I don't want to do it again.

I think this is so wise.  The incurable illness that runs in my family can't really be detected unless it happens, often in adulthood.  I know a lot of people thought I should not have kids because of my health, but ultimately, I knew I would rather have been born, no matter how often I am sick, how many times I am hospitalized, which organs are destroyed, and when and how I die.  Sick people have a right to exist, period.  Letting yourself meet your child, love him/her, and see him/her for the beautiful person s/he will be before thinking of him/her as sick gives so much honor to his/her human dignity.  It is such an act of grace.