My husband and I have been separated for 5 months...4 weeks after we separated he had a new girlfriend and immediately wanted her to be involved in our DD's lif (at that time she was 5 months old). I advocated very hard to have him not do this...mainly because he did not put any time in to bond with her while we were together (therefore needs to have one-in-one time with her now even moreso), and also because his pattern with women is always very impulsive and I fear DD will be introduced to a long list of women throughout her life. I felt so strongly this way that I put a clause in our Agreement stating we both have to wait 6 months before she is introduced to a new partner. So far he has complied with this, although I have been told by his sister that he wanted to go behind my back, but his family wouldn't let him. His relationship 6 month mark will be coming up in November (which he reminds me of all the time), just after DD's 1st birthday.
I have accepted that this other woman is going to be in my DD's life. I have no desire whatsoever to be with my ex, so there aren't mixed emotions there. Lately, as the time draws closer I find myself feeling insecure....worrying that my DD will love his GF more than me etc. I realize these feelings are a little irrational as DD is with me 95% of the time and we are very attached. I co-sleep and do not CIO and she is a very joyful little girl. However, I just don't know how to deal with these feelings that another woman will be playing a role in her life (and isn't her Nana etc). I know my ex will defer to his GF and probably try and have her do the caregiving. I am going to have to drop her off at his GF's house for his visitation because he has moved in there immediately (another story...).
How have you guys dealt with these feelings? Just breathe, I suppose...