I had the flu at 36 weeks in my first pregnancy. It sucked but we survived and I stayed hydrated (main thing) - it was a nasty respiratory one too. I never get the flu shot (and I work in healthcare) - it's a crapload of propaganda to say that it protects people around you by getting the flu shot, when double blind randomized control trials have never proven it to be that effective. Really, meticulous hand hygeine and staying home when sick is what protects people around you! The research supporting the efficacy of flu shots is pretty sketchy at best and based on large population based studies, not case control. In any case, it seems that everyone I know who gets the flu shot ends up getting the flu...and I get a flu about once every 4 or 5 years (and never get the shot)! The year I got the flu, happened to be the year that they totally missed the strain of flu and the vaccine wasn't effective anyway! I credit good nutrition and healthy sleep habits with not getting sick often.
It seems strange that an OB would pressure you about genetic testing. The thing that sealed the deal for me to decline it was my question, "What diseases does it detect? And are any of those still treatable in utero?" Since the answer to the second question was "no" and I knew I could never personally choose to abort a baby with spina bifida or downs syndrome, then I decided that the stress of testing and possible amniocentesis (and the 1 in 200 risk of miscarriage - ie the baby DYING) was not at all worth the "knowing". I deal better with surprises, rather than the stress and anticipation of knowing my child would have a disability. I knew that no amount of preparation would actually prepare me for that, nor would it change the outcome...so I may as well try to enjoy my pregnancy and not worry.
It totally irritates me how OB's can get SO worked up over recommending antibiotics in labour for group B strep (1 in 200 risk of severe GBS in baby if GBS positive mom declines antibiotics)....but they can be so BLASE about the risk to an unborn baby (miscarriage) during amniocentisis - which is the same level of risk, or actually higher, given that even fewer babies with GBS actually die from it. Starting the blood testing is the first of a cascade of tests that can lead to the amnio....which may have never been necessary to begin with. I'm by no means downplaying the severity of GBS or the concerns of parents who want to know if their baby has a problem...just pointing out the irony of OB's liberally recommending tests that in reality can lead to further testing that carries a significant level of risk to the unborn baby. Sorry I can't quote sources for these stats, so feel free to correct me if I'm off...
I do wonder if OB's can bill for ordering and interpreting these blood tests, immunizations, etc. (yes I'm a bit cynical...). If you didn't mind being "fired" from her practice, you could ask this!
I would try to find another OB if you know she could end up being the one called in if you develop complications during midwifery care. A good care provider makes you feel "supported".