Well, for those still around... How the heck are ya?! - Page 2

[lovelylisa]

Hi ladies! I have not been around here very much but I think about you guys a lot and wonder how you are doing :) Olivia  turned 3 months old today! And I have to tell you...this has been the most intense 3 months of my life. It has been one bombshell after another and sometimes I don't know I'm holding on sometimes. Just to summarize: Unexpected c-section a month early, death in the family, we both lost our jobs, our apartment got flooded during the hurricane, etc. etc. WTF man, lol. Its been intense. But the past few days have been ok so I'm hoping the storm has passed.

Olivia is doing great. She is really cooing and smiling. I'm still petrified to nurse in public so if we all go out its only for a quick trip or I nurse in the car.  but I went to our local baby wearing meeting and tried a ring sling so I may be able to make that work. Plus it was cool to just be someplace where everyone nursed their babies and not look at you like you were crazy. I don't know anyone in my area who breastfeeds and that sucks.

[lovelylisa]

I wanted to add.... how big are your babies now? Olivia is just hitting 10lbs now at 3 months, but both my babies were small and she was a month early :)

[cupcait]

Lisa, what a wild three months for your family. I hope everything settles down for you guys and things return to normal! 

As for weight, Theo was 11 lbs 3 oz at his one month appointment two weeks ago. I'd guess he's up another pound at this point. I'm very curious to see how much he weighs when we go for his two month visit in a few weeks.

So, I have a question... Does anyone get anxious or annoyed when people want to pass around their baby? I HATE when certain people want to hold him. I makes my protective mama bear instinct kick in BIG TIME. It's not all people either, I don't mind if it's my DH for obvious reasons or my family but I hate when my DH's fam or little kids try to hold him. They always want to hold him at the worst times and then they end up handing me back a crying babe. My MIL always seems upset that she didn't get to hold him for hours when we see him but she doesn't get that he really just wants to be by his mama and his milks. She didn't breastfeed her kids either so she doesn't understand that much either. Ugh. She just bugs me and I needed to vent somewhere. 

[guatemama1]

cupcait: i hear ya! and get this... my MIL is a babywearing ninja however, she takes arlo in one arm - ONE arm (one arm!!!!) - and flips him around on to her back and then wraps him in the rebozo. i have to remember that while that freaks me out BIG TIME, that to her that's like tying her shoes to me (ha, funny, i'm sure she's never, ever tied shoes and i've never, ever worn a baby before this).... i get pretty antsy if she's been wearing him too long.... total mama bear kicking in. sometimes i just tell DH: Go get my baby from your mom.

in the last 2 months there has been some difference in opinion in certain baby-care issues however, i always win cuz i pushed him out of MY vagina. i win. i always really liked the traditional medicine/indigenous ways of many guatemalans but now that i have arlo, i'm less pleased. ....no arlo doesn't get startled because i have fears i haven't dealt with.... no i won't get sick if i don't cover up my nipple fast enough after nursing.... no we are not going to rub herbs on his tummy to heal his umbilical granuloma-thingy... etc etc.... :)

Lisa: so sorry about all that stuff.. that is all wildly intense for sure. and about Bf'ing in public... i too was very nervous about it but i'm lucky to be down here in guatemala where Bf'ing is the absolute norm. i have whipped it out practically everywhere! i'm going to be much more self-conscious and nervous once i get back to the US... gonna have to sniff out how bf-friendly my town is in the US...

[guatemama1]

Originally Posted by stellabluz 

guate~that is maddening, i had similar, but not as crucial experience at our "registering" office. It always amazes me how little or dare i say ignorant people still are about home birth and midwives. They act like the midwife just shows up with a pot to boil water in or something. glad you got his papers, i would have been so pissed. sorry bout that roid too :( I got one after too (around 4 weeks. it's small enough that it seems to come and go though). just breathe and dont push. lots of water.

narleegates~teeth!! at first i thought you meant your husband. either way i would be so scared!

we finally did the deed, hoping that lets out some steam in my husbands brain, geez. no idea what to do about birth control. i actually have been thinking of doing it all again, which was so far from my mind after birthing this ten pounder. i just love my children so much, i get these rushes of what seem like oxytocin still. kinda strange.

the vaxing topic (from my exp. on the mdc) will just eat up any thread so i will just leave it at my kids are all 100% unvaxed and in my gut and to my best researched abilities, i feel that is the right thing to do. there are some great sources here on the vax forums though to help make that decision.

im gonna do a little shameless promotion of myself here, but also give all you mamas a coupon :)

here is a sweet treasury i was featured in:

http://www.etsy.com/treasury/Njc5MTgzMHw3MjAzNTU0MjY/birthing-celebration

and free shipping coupon code for my wee shop is : MDCmama

http://www.etsy.com/shop/aCalliopeWoman?ref=pr_shop_more

And I vote for a social club for sure as a non fb-er. I think I read that the moderator needs a "leader" from us to start...any volunteers?

i'll be the leader! facebook be darned!

congrats on the treasury feature -- so awesome it is for birthing stuffs... i'm gonna go peruse yer cool shop ;)

AND you gals are KILLIN me with this "next baby" talk!!!! :)

[guatemama1]

I put in a request for a July DDC flavored social group... accept they wanted proof I had a baby in July and turns out I have no documentation...  just kidding .... but the social group request part is true

[mugglesmom]

Originally Posted by guatemama1 

I put in a request for a July DDC flavored social group... accept they wanted proof I had a baby in July and turns out I have no documentation...  just kidding .... but the social group request part is true

I did too!  I was just going to post that they responded that we need a leader and co-leader and we have to decide if we want the group to be an open group (anyone can join and approve) or a closed group (can join by request and approval by leaders).

So, maybe you and I can be leaders and then we just need to decide if we want an open or closed group.
 

[mugglesmom]

Originally Posted by cupcait 

Lisa, what a wild three months for your family. I hope everything settles down for you guys and things return to normal! 

As for weight, Theo was 11 lbs 3 oz at his one month appointment two weeks ago. I'd guess he's up another pound at this point. I'm very curious to see how much he weighs when we go for his two month visit in a few weeks.

So, I have a question... Does anyone get anxious or annoyed when people want to pass around their baby? I HATE when certain people want to hold him. I makes my protective mama bear instinct kick in BIG TIME. It's not all people either, I don't mind if it's my DH for obvious reasons or my family but I hate when my DH's fam or little kids try to hold him. They always want to hold him at the worst times and then they end up handing me back a crying babe. My MIL always seems upset that she didn't get to hold him for hours when we see him but she doesn't get that he really just wants to be by his mama and his milks. She didn't breastfeed her kids either so she doesn't understand that much either. Ugh. She just bugs me and I needed to vent somewhere. 

I just had this revelation last night!  My sister is a hairdresser and I went to her house so she could fix me up so I don't look like such a rag-bag.  Well a friend of ours (mostly hers) came by with her 12 year old daughter because they wanted to see the baby.  She and her daughter basically passed hims back and forth and didn't understand why I was so anxious.  I brought my mom with us so she could hold him and take care of him while I was indisposed but they kinda took over.  She also didn't breastfeed and didn't understand when I wanted him back to nurse.  She also made a comment when I was saying he doens't nap a whole lot by himself.  She said that I should just let him cry until he falls alseep, that her daughter slept through the night at 3 months!!!  It made me sick, I just wanted to go give her daughter a hug.  I mean at 3 months she could just leave her tiny little baby screaming for mama?? yuck!

[mugglesmom]

Originally Posted by lovelylisa 

Hi ladies! I have not been around here very much but I think about you guys a lot and wonder how you are doing :) Olivia  turned 3 months old today! And I have to tell you...this has been the most intense 3 months of my life. It has been one bombshell after another and sometimes I don't know I'm holding on sometimes. Just to summarize: Unexpected c-section a month early, death in the family, we both lost our jobs, our apartment got flooded during the hurricane, etc. etc. WTF man, lol. Its been intense. But the past few days have been ok so I'm hoping the storm has passed.

Olivia is doing great. She is really cooing and smiling. I'm still petrified to nurse in public so if we all go out its only for a quick trip or I nurse in the car.  but I went to our local baby wearing meeting and tried a ring sling so I may be able to make that work. Plus it was cool to just be someplace where everyone nursed their babies and not look at you like you were crazy. I don't know anyone in my area who breastfeeds and that sucks.

Wow you have had a rough few weeks!  I thought I had it rough!  I'm sure things are on the upswing. 

 I was just saying that I think part of the reason I had so many issues with breastfeeding (and a lot of other women too) is because we don't see women in public doing it.  I wish it was more common.  I was really nervous about breastfeeding in public too but I finally just sucked it up and did it because he wants to nurse all the time and I'd never be able to leave the house with out doing it.  So far I've had a pretty good response, I mean I've had 2 different women come up to me and say good job for doing it.  That made me feel pretty good.  I try to do it discreetly but for some reason I can't seem to cover up my gigantic boobs very well.  I did have one kind of bad reaction.  I was nursing on a bench at the mall (my least fave place to be in the first place) and a dad with his little girl on sitting on his shoulders looked at me and shook his head.  I was already feeling pretty upset because I didn't want to be there and it was one of our first outings.  When I told my DH what happened he pretty much wanted to chase the guy down and scream the MN laws in his face.  At least I have some back up when I need it!

I just spent a few hours looking up videos on how to breastfeed in the moby and ergo.  I was thinking I might need a ring sling but I figured out 2 different holds for the moby so I'm good to go!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYJuqBVZlGA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLduLJFSJn4

I think that first link would work with a sling too.

[guatemama1]

Originally Posted by mugglesmom 

I did too!  I was just going to post that they responded that we need a leader and co-leader and we have to decide if we want the group to be an open group (anyone can join and approve) or a closed group (can join by request and approval by leaders).

So, maybe you and I can be leaders and then we just need to decide if we want an open or closed group.
 

hhaha ok let's start this thing! go for it and i'll be your co-pilot

[guatemama1]

Originally Posted by mugglesmom 

 I did have one kind of bad reaction.  I was nursing on a bench at the mall (my least fave place to be in the first place) and a dad with his little girl on sitting on his shoulders looked at me and shook his head.  I was already feeling pretty upset because I didn't want to be there and it was one of our first outings.  When I told my DH what happened he pretty much wanted to chase the guy down and scream the MN laws in his face.  At least I have some back up when I need it!

 

Ugghh that sucks, I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm such a hot head lately... I woulda been trailing your DH on that naysayin' dude's tail to scream some stuff, too. If that ever happens to me I'm not sure I'll be able to keep my cool and let it go. Arrrrrg

...I bought a nursing cover for when I am stateside. Funny, I'd never use it here... and to realize how much more 'freedom' and 'independence' we have as individuals in the US yet hassled for BF'ing whereas here there are so many problems we never have to deal with in the states but women can walk down the street BF'ing and nobody, nobody thinks twice about it. Eh, it's a deep subject, point is: our BF culture is laaame and I'm so glad at least there's a place (even if online :) that has so much respect for it.

[stellabluz]

Originally Posted by mugglesmom 

I just had this revelation last night!  My sister is a hairdresser and I went to her house so she could fix me up so I don't look like such a rag-bag.  Well a friend of ours (mostly hers) came by with her 12 year old daughter because they wanted to see the baby.  She and her daughter basically passed hims back and forth and didn't understand why I was so anxious.  I brought my mom with us so she could hold him and take care of him while I was indisposed but they kinda took over.  She also didn't breastfeed and didn't understand when I wanted him back to nurse.  She also made a comment when I was saying he doens't nap a whole lot by himself.  She said that I should just let him cry until he falls alseep, that her daughter slept through the night at 3 months!!!  It made me sick, I just wanted to go give her daughter a hug.  I mean at 3 months she could just leave her tiny little baby screaming for mama?? yuck!

YUCK is right! Just look at the studies of babies brains that are left to cry it out. You should give her a hug next time you see her.
This is good.

http://www.city-data.com/forum/parenting/137936-harvard-researchers-say-cry-out-wrong.html

Originally Posted by mugglesmom 

Wow you have had a rough few weeks!  I thought I had it rough!  I'm sure things are on the upswing. 

 I was just saying that I think part of the reason I had so many issues with breastfeeding (and a lot of other women too) is because we don't see women in public doing it.  I wish it was more common.  I was really nervous about breastfeeding in public too but I finally just sucked it up and did it because he wants to nurse all the time and I'd never be able to leave the house with out doing it.  So far I've had a pretty good response, I mean I've had 2 different women come up to me and say good job for doing it.  That made me feel pretty good.  I try to do it discreetly but for some reason I can't seem to cover up my gigantic boobs very well.  I did have one kind of bad reaction.  I was nursing on a bench at the mall (my least fave place to be in the first place) and a dad with his little girl on sitting on his shoulders looked at me and shook his head.  I was already feeling pretty upset because I didn't want to be there and it was one of our first outings.  When I told my DH what happened he pretty much wanted to chase the guy down and scream the MN laws in his face.  At least I have some back up when I need it!

I just spent a few hours looking up videos on how to breastfeed in the moby and ergo.  I was thinking I might need a ring sling but I figured out 2 different holds for the moby so I'm good to go!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYJuqBVZlGA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLduLJFSJn4

I think that first link would work with a sling too.

Sorry you had to have that experience. People are so clueless here. It's is so weird how even when you know youre doin the most awesome thing for your child, you are left to feel vulnerable and alone. SOmething is very off in this country. It starts at our attitudes towards birth and just keeps going.

I try not even to look at people around me as I am bfing in public, nor make that much of an effort to cover him or me up. as silly as it sounds, i dont even want to know what they are doing/thinking. i just focus on him and the flow of milk into his healthy little being. that way we accomplish feeding and the normality of breasts as they should be at the same time

[stellabluz]

I have no idea why my post looks like that, im gonna go hop over to the new social chat groupness. happy monday mamas, hope its goin well...

[tourist.]

Originally Posted by cupcait 

So, I have a question... Does anyone get anxious or annoyed when people want to pass around their baby?

I sure do!  It's just a few people, but they seriously stress me out.  It's the worst.

Lisa - So incredibly sorry to hear about your last 3 months.  I hope everything starts to go your way now.  

Xevan had his 2 month check-up last Friday and he weighed 14lbs 4oz...up from 8lbs 6oz (or 8lbs 12oz) at birth.  Chunky boy.  

Bah...gotta run.

[Narleegates]

I don't know, I don't mind people holding him, or passing him around...but sometimes I think I must be missing some sort of Mommy gene.  The only time I really mind people holding him is when I haven't held him in awhile...and then I miss him, but even when surrounded by family I get my snuggle time regularly because I'm the only one who can feed him :)

[guatemama1]

Originally Posted by Narleegates 

I don't know, I don't mind people holding him, or passing him around...but sometimes I think I must be missing some sort of Mommy gene.  The only time I really mind people holding him is when I haven't held him in awhile...and then I miss him, but even when surrounded by family I get my snuggle time regularly because I'm the only one who can feed him :)

Most everything has been moved to the July DDC social group.... Come meet us over there! :)   http://www.mothering.com/community/groups/show/10/july-2011-ddc