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So what do you do?

post #1 of 47
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So I've been reading intros and stuff...I'm curious what does everyone do? What does your spouse do? What else should be know about you? :)

 

I am a nurse, teacher and mom. :) I work in L&D and teach nursing for a local college and online. I work about 3 days a week and am home the other time. I would love to be a SAHM and am planning on quitting my job when this baby comes. (I will stay on PRN, as needed, at the hospital). 

 

My husband is a pastor and works washing trucks at a trucking company (glamorous I know, but it pays the bills). 

 

What else should you know about me?

 

We homeschool. DH and I are very fortunate to have schedules that allow one of us to be home with our kids during the day. We love it!!

 

We are conservative evangelical Christians. (I know that just raised the hairs on some of your necks. winky.gif)  I won't judge you if you won't judge me. orngbiggrin.gif I am friends with people from all walks of life and belief systems. They know that I am a Christian, but they also know that I won't judge them and we have a mutual respect for each other. 

 

We would love to have a big family. We got married when we were 19 and knew way back then that we wanted a larger family. And if I had only boys I'd be thrilled although I'd love to have a girl someday. 

 

Fun stuff:

 

I play drums and totally use them to release my stress. 

 

I never get tired of birth. I have been working some with a local homebirth midwife as her first assist and love it!!

 

I grow tomatoes in my garden every year, but I really hate to eat them. I just give them away. 

 

I have a brother who is 14 months younger than me. It was great when we were really little and now that we're older. In highschool it was kind of rough...he convinced everyone I was adopted. 

 

I grew up in a really really small town. Like 500 people big in South Central Kansas. My graduating class was 38. My husband and I were highschool sweethearts. 

 

If I could live anywhere I would live way out in the sticks on a self sustaining farm. I would love to have cows, goats, horses, pigs, chickens, a huge garden and a ton of kids. :)

 

I guess that's me in a nutshell. 

 

--Erin

 

 

 

 

post #2 of 47

Well, a little more about me. My name is Lindsay and my husband Jason and I have been married for 7 years. I am a SAHM and I have been since I quit my retail mgmt job of 11 years in January '11 so that I could stay home with my kids. I studied Anthropology and English Lit in University and retail was NEVER supposed to be my career anyways. I love being home so much, I don't envision myself ever going back to work. My DH loves me being home too. The stress level in our home dropped to next to nothing even with two kids under five in the house. My husband is a Police Officer and as you all know, it is an emotional, stressful and exhausting job. He is a remarkable man. He has a Master's Degree in Divinity (so not joking) and he is one of the most intelligent people that I know. He worked for years with Street Youth and Foster Kids. He loves chess, math and space. He is not your stereotypical "cop" but he has excelled at his job. I am so very proud of him. He also comes home and says stuff like "don't worry that dinner isn't ready and the house is a mess. You didn't quit your job to do those things. Did you play with the kids? Are you all happy? Then I am happy... let ME make dinner". I am serious. He is THAT guy!!! Anyways- that's a lot about DH. I used to love staying up late, playing my piano and singing- I LOVE Tori Amos and I would sip on a G and T (no longer) and just make music until the wee hours of the morning. I read approx. 4 novels a month. I am just learning how to cook and bake. I LOVE cleaning- I really do! I love organizing things and throwing things out. I pick my zits and pull out my back fat to shock people. I am quite funny and I love my time out with my girlfriends. My children at 2 and 4 (but not for long- their birthday's are coming up). They are named Charlotte and Deacon. I EBF until the babies decide that they are done. I co-sleep (if they want to- my son hated it for the first 2 years and now he loves sleeping with us). I believe in attachment parenting and I am very anti CIO. My home is full of laughter and fun. We have realized that these are our Golden Years and when we are in a nursing home one day, these are the moments that we will long for so we don't take anything for granted. DH and I wanted another baby so bad so we are thrilled about #3. We hate surprises so we will find out the gender. I can't wait to eliminate half of the 35 totes of baby clothes in our garage when we find out the gender. I miss Gin. I hate that my tummy already looks HUGE and I am trying to just embrace it. I really should get off my laptop and finish cleaning before bed. I am loving this group. We believe in being charitable and self sacrificing. I am mad at my parents right now and I have to go pee. Oh and I live in Ontario Canada, not far from Toronto so it's almost bed time here. Night night ladies. I am hoping to have a deep sleep without the crazy lady pregnant dreams.

post #3 of 47

Ok I will go!

 

I am 28, hubby is 26 and we have been married for 3 years now, together for 4.  We met on and online video game (for real!) and ended up falling in love and he moved from Oklahoma to be with me in Oregon.  I always say that it is fate that we met on that game because I had never played a game like that before and never have since!  I played ONE one time and I met him, and now I am done!  He is NOT done with game and is a video game addict orngbiggrin.gif  He is playing right now as I type this, and this is usually how we spend our evenings, me on the computer, him on his game and a big tv in the middle with a show we are watching together.  It works for us!

 

When I met him, he was with his ex-girlfriend and they ended up having a daughter together.  He has a genetic problem that makes his esophagus smaller and his daughter ended up dying from that at 9 months old.  Because of that, it took him a long time to be "ready" to have another child.  This was difficult for me because I was baby crazy from the moment I came into this world, I feel like!  So I waited patiently and we finally set the date of August 2011 to start TTC.  And we got it on our first try!!  I am elated and he is happy but hesitant.  I think he will be better once our baby passes 9 months old.  His daughter died at exactly 9 months old.

 

So that is the story of US.  We are VERY young at heart still as you can tell and it will be such a life-changing experience for us to actually be "adults" and "parents" as he didn't really get a chance to parent his daughter (the mom moved away with her almost immediately).  I am super excited about it all, though!!

 

As for me, I have 2 jobs.  I am a licensed massage therapist and love doing that!  I do.  But, I also have a side business that is turning into my main business.  I work with a direct sales company called Visalus and I promote the 90 day challenge which is all about health and wellness.  I feel blessed to have this in my life because not only does it give me a yummy shake to have each day to get nutrition for me and my baby, but it allows me to stay home a lot and work from home when I don't feel like working out of the home much.  I love my jobs!

 

Well, I can't think of much else right now!  I am ready to get into my pjs and pass out, so I will leave it at that for now! biggrinbounce.gif

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Hi wave.gif Hubby and I have been together for 5 years, married for 2. I have one daughter with my ex-husband that my hubby took in as his own. We met when my oldest was only 2 months old. I didn't want a boyfriend, I only wanted to concentrate on raising my daughter, but he wouldn't leave me alone on myspace LOL. I finally gave in and ended up on a date with him. The rest is history! We decided early on to have a baby together. My oldest two are 18 months apart. My youngest is 8 months. Her and this baby will be 16 months apart and we couldn't be happier. We feel like the oldest two are playmates and hopefully the youngest two will be too!!!

 

Hubby works in a local factory making bread bags. It pays the bills and people will always buy bread no matter how bad this economy gets so his job is secure. I own a small online business making hemp jewelry, and specialize in making hemp teething/nursing necklaces. My business is Three Little Birds Hemp. I am ecstatic that I have been contacted by a mom who owns an online shop and sells strictly WAHM products. I am supplying her for the first time and it is nerve wracking because I am also trying to make stock for an upcoming congo!! My small business was made for a little extra income, but mostly goes toward my cloth diaper obsession! hide.gif

 

Let's see....a little bit about me....I love to read. Especially books that give me more information on whatever topic I am obsessing with at the time being. I am a student. I have an associates in general studies and I am working on a 2nd associate in business administration and human resources. We have three girls and would be over the moon if this baby is a boy. We want a healthy baby first of all, but some blue in this estrogen hell hole would be niceROTFLMAO.gifWe live in a hippie town. We don't have cable tv. I love playing online and hubby loves playing video games. I try to be as crunchy/granola as possible, but I have my downfalls like everyone else! (I am ashamed to admit that we use paper plates, plastic cups and plastic silverware on a daily basis. It keeps me from doing dishes, so I look at it as saving water Sheepish.gif) I love music, mostly classic rock. My favorite artist is Trevor Hall. He's amazing. Check him out. My husband love sports more then me. I try to keep up with it, just as he tries to keep up with my birth crap. 

 

I think that is about it for now! I am an outspoken, but kind individual. I have a huge heart and I am honest. I love this group so far and can't wait to form a bond over the next 10+months!

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I have degrees in history and graphic design and am currently a SAHP. My job up until two years ago was as a library assistant for a small medical specality professional association. If I can ever afford the software I'd like to get back into graphic design. My DH is a chemical engineer and is working to a project to mine and process rare earth elements in the US. This is a big deal since most electronics use those materials and China had cornered the market. This is incredibly stressful because the powers that be really want this process started and keep shifting deadlines. It is crazy. 

 

We are both kinda nerdy. DH has every D&D book ever printed (or at least it seems like it). I've done a lot of research on the lives of women and children in the Middle Ages.

post #6 of 47

Jessica, you and my hubby would get along great, he loved paper plates to avoid dishes!

 

I'm Erin, DH and I just celebrated our 7th Wedding Anniversary and we've been together for over 9years.  I work for a big multinational corporation as a IT Quality Systems Project Leader and if I wanted to move back where HQ is, I'd be a manager and climb the ladder.  But I like family time and being close to home, so the career takes 2nd place and I WAH full time, traveling to HQ or upstate NY a couple times a year.  My parents and school help balance out our schedules, and work is very flexible about hours and such.  As long as the work gets done, they don't care.  Hubby is a inventory logistics coordinator for the cable company.  He's the guy behind the cable guy :) Neither of us are being paid doing what we want to do, so hubs is finishing up his undergrad and will be going straight to grad school.  I can't change careers, so I put my free time into things that are important and fulfill me.  I started a non profit group advocating for health freedom and choice in my state, called Mass Citizens for Health Choice.  I am also the Massachusetts Canary Party co leader.  This creates an interesting dynamic in our family bc my hubby is politically involved as the Congressional District Leader for the ONE Campaign.  ONE made 2011 the year of the vaccine and Paul Offit their preacher.  Um, we are a non vaxing family.  This makes for interesting dinner conversations.  I am involved in HMN and teach a food allergy class to the HMN moms.  We went through absolute hell figuring out Chase's food allergies, intolerances and nutritional deficiencies, and I do everything I can within my circles to make sure no parent goes through that again.  I also have a small hobbyist photography business, where mostly for friends and family I do maternity, newborn and kiddo portraits.  Oh yeah and I run a FB news feed called The Research Mommies, where I post articles and medical papers on nearly everything MDC concentrates on, like cosleeping, extended BFing, vaccines, etc.

 

I try to be as crunchy as possible as well.  We hopefully will be adding chickens to our family soon, for eggs.  If I weren't preggo, I'd be building the coop this weekend! I hike with our dogs and the little guy a lot, love to turn it into nature learning for him.  I am slightly obsessed with photography and documenting stuff.  Hubby makes fun of me that I edit photos before events have even taken place.  I am also obsessed with home decorating and redoing things every couple years.  I just like to keep things fresh and fun.  Redoing the family room right now, making it light and airy after 5 years of dark and intimate.  We travel to Cape Cod a lot, and love it down there.  

 

THe only other thing you have to know about us is this, there are two giant passions hubby and I both share.  Boston Sports, and the bands U2 and Pearl Jam.  Tonight is the first football game of the season, and come 4pm when hubby is home, this house will smell like chili and everyone will be wearing their Pats gear.  

post #7 of 47

I love reading these! Have a great day Mama's thumbsup.gif.

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I'm Sara, I'm 24, and my partner, Sara is 30. We met online about 2 and a half years ago, when I still lived in Pittsburgh. We went on one date and we were hooked. We did the long distance thing for a little over a year and then I moved in with her and her two cuties. They are now 8 and 6 and couldn't be more excited about the two babies we are having. Sara is 8 months pregnant and I about 5 weeks. We wanted the babies to be very close together because we thought it would be fun and great for the kiddos too. 

 

I am a photographer, I mostly free lance, but right now I'm working with a photo company taking pictures for schools. She's a home health worker. 

 

We love to travel, be outside, do experiments and make big messes. Life is busy and oh so fun for all of us! 

post #9 of 47

I'm 26, and my husband is a week shy of 31. We met in college when I was a freshman and he was a super-senior, and we've been together for 8 years. We've been married for six. We live with our beautiful non-human kids who I could go on and on about (two chinchillas, five rabbits, two budgies, and one cat) in a little transitional apartment we just moved into while we finalize buying our first house. We're dealing with a lot of changes at once!

 

I have an undergraduate degree in demography and I'm currently working on my Ph.D. in evolutionary anthropology. I primarily work on cultural trait transmission in female genital cutting. I also have interests in fertility decision-making and the evolutionary underpinnings of fertility limitation. I'm working on finishing up my coursework right now, and after I take my qualifying examinations, most of my time will be spent on data analysis and hopefully also fieldwork. I plan on taking my husband and child[ren] with me wherever I decide to do fieldwork - likely Nigeria or Egypt.

 

My husband is a web programmer. He works as a contractor for one of those big Silicon Valley companies. He luckily has a really flexible schedule - he only has to be physically present at the office for four days every two weeks - and he's always wanted to be a SAHD (or at least a WAHD), so he's almost getting his wish!

 

My background is actually in the visual arts, and I don't actually think I'm going to be using my Ph.D. all too much in the end unless I can find a great position at an NGO that deals with women's health and reproductive issues. My plan is to actually go back to making art at some point in the near future, and to ultimately write and illustrate children's books. I would rather not stay in academia in the long term.

 

Otherwise, we're both really into being physically active, and we hike/walk a lot, weightlift/powerlift, and I love to swim (though with the recent move and trips and house stuff, I haven't been able to swim in weeks). We cook a lot, mostly vegan/vegetarian, and always from scratch with local ingredients when possible. My husband's looking forward to starting a huge food garden when we move into our new house. We're both into community engagement and look forward to volunteering our time to teach skills to kids in the neighborhood, or share homegrown foods, or otherwise become involved and invested in our community. 

 

I've been knitting a lot lately (not for the baby yet) and my husband actually asked me to teach him to knit way back before we were dating, as an excuse to hang out with me (and also because he thought knitting looked nifty). He's going to be knitting some baby stuff too.

 

We were both raised with religion but we do not currently practice any faith. While we want to teach our kids about all faiths, we will not be raising our kids with religion. It will be a challenge for my in-laws to understand and accept this, but I have a feeling that they'll come around.

 

I'm pretty sure that this will be our only biological child, though of course I can't really say for sure what we'll want to do in the future. We've always wanted to adopt and we hope to adopt within two years of having our first, and I'd love to breastfeed our second child too.

 

I'm sure there's more but we have a flight to catch, I think I covered the basics!

 

LinnieThree - I was a big Toriphile growing up :) I still love her older stuff, though my obsession has died down a lot. But I can relate! 

 

mama4peace - I was just in Bloomington yesterday, it's such a cute little town! It seems like a really nice place to raise kids.


Edited by maryamrose - 9/17/11 at 10:53am
post #10 of 47

Hello!!  I am Lindsay as well and I am a prenatal yoga instructor/birth doula/Hypnobabies instructor.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE what I do!!  I also teach children's yoga and even have a DVD out that I'm in for 2.5+ yr olds.  So much fun!!  My degree is a B.S. in Exercise Science, which I guess I use to some extent.

 

My husband just graduated from Seminary and has been working at a youth pastor for the last 4 years and now is on the hunt for a fulltime paying (haha- because part-time ministry is laughable, he works a lot, but gets paid part-time) ministry job.  So it wasn't exactly the best time for #3, but we're just trusting that it'll work out if we keep on trucking forward lol.   

 

I have a 2 and 4 yr old and we are unsure exactly what we'll do for schooling, but we lean pretty heavily to the Waldorf side of things with a touch of unschooling I suppose :-).  We love to be active- yoga, swimming, exercising, going on adventures around town, etc!!  Lately we've been SOOOO busy just working (I attended FIVE births last month- four of them the same week, and then all the pre and postnatal meetings that go along with that!!!) but I'm excited to have Sep/Oct off of births to really spend time with my kids.  

 

Looking forward to getting to know you all.

post #11 of 47

Babycatcher: We have some similarities!!!

 

I'm a L&D nurse, but work only 16 hours/week.  I'm also an IBCLC, but am not hired at my hospital in that capacity.  I just use it to help the mama's I deliver.  I'm also back in school working on my BSN - will be done in May - and will immediately start grad school.  Eventually I would like to get my PhD and get a full-time faculty position at a university teaching nursing.

 

DH is currently unemployed (since May when his plant closed) so is now in college for the first time working on an Associates in computer networking & security.  Since our youngest started kindergarten 2 weeks ago, all five of us are now students...lol!

 

Our oldest son (10) is very athletic, so a lot of our free time is spent at basketball & baseball games.  My middle guy is a cub-scout, and our daughter starts Daisy scouts this year, so that keeps us busy too.  Other than that, I love digging in my garden when the weather permits, and hanging out at the library.

 

October & November I'm pretty busy as I'm a relay center coordinator for Operation Christmas Child at our church, which I love doing.

 

Like I said earlier, this pregnancy was a TOTAL surprise, since we were actively TTA - but I'm excited, now that the shock has worn off!  I scheduled my first OB appt. today for 9-28.  Hoping for a healthy & easy pregnancy, and loving getting to know all of you smile.gif.

post #12 of 47

I'm 27 and DH is 28. We met in high school in band (we were total band geeks) so we've been close friends since we were 15. We never dated in high school though -- we finally got together in 2006 and married in 2007.

 

I have an 8 year old son from a previous relationship. He doesn't currently live with us and we are working with a lawyer to get custody...its just a long drawn out process like custody battles always are. I also have a 3 year old son with DH. They are the sweetest boys ever and I'd be happy to add another boy to the family, but DH is really hoping that baby # 3 is a girl. With my first, I was young and just did whatever my pediatrician recommended without questioning anything so DS1 is fully vaxed, but DS2 is not. I am getting crunchier and crunchier all the time haha! I am looking forward to home birthing, cloth diapering, not vaxing, baby wearing, etc. with the new little one. 


I am a speech-language pathologist. I work in an elementary school. I could get paid a lot more if I worked in a hospital or skilled nursing facility, but I love working with kids and you can't beat the hours - I will get all summer off with my new baby before I even touch my maternity leave. biggrinbounce.gif I love what I do. DH is a police officer. He loves what he does and I'm really proud to be his wife. <3 

 

I love reading about all of you...really looking forward to getting to know everyone! 

 

 

 

 

 

post #13 of 47

I am 27, and DH will be 27 in October.  We've been married 5.5 years, and were friends (but not sweethearts) in high school.

 

We are conservative evangelical Christians, and I am interested in getting to know you, not judging you :)  I know, love, am related to, and friends with people from all walks of life, and I find myself a better person for knowing and respecting them, and them knowing and respecting me in return.

 

I am an RN, BSN, PHN and just finished my CLEC (lactation educator).  I worked full time in a small community hospital in Labor and Delivery until the birth of DS in May 2010; I now work PRN, which ends up being about 1/2 a shift a month.  DH and I are currently discussing my total and complete quitting, because we both dread the days I'm on call and hope I won't get called in.

 

DH just started his MBA.  He's an IT project manager and looking for a new job, so we may be moving if he finds the right fit somewhere else.  I'd love to move as we live in a huge suburban metropolis with smog as far as the eye can see.

 

Randomness:

I'd love to live on an urban farm and have a huge garden, some chickens and a cow or goat.

 

I am addicted to homemade GF cookie dough.  I love to cook, bake and sew.  I'd rather scrub toilets and iron clothes than do the dishes.

 

Nesting has kicked in already!  I want to sew baby clothes and newborn diapers and update my maternity wardrobe, but I can't yet because we live with my mom, and we haven't told her, and if she saw me working on those things, she'd figure it our really fast, especially as she's already looking at me funny sometimes.

 

My waist is gone and I've developed a pooch and look pg, though I haven't gained any weight.

 

For some odd reason, I feel really afraid of labor right now, and it's making me upset.

 

I should really go wake DS from his nap as it's 5pm, but he's been sleeping horribly this last week, so I feel bad about doing it.

                    ::ok, ok, off to be mean mommy::

 

Em

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I'm 25 and DH is 26. We've been together for 6 years, married for 2.5 years. DH works at a custom cabinet shop and plays his drums by night. He's a constant handy man working on or building things for our house. I have a few part time jobs that allow me to create my own schedule and be home with DS as much as possible. I work for a non-profit organization as a parent educator. I go into low income families homes that have children under age 3 and do child development activities with them, as well as connecting them with community resources. I'm also a substitute librarian for several libraries in our county. I am an aspiring doula. I've only been to one birth so far and am attending training at the end of the month biggrinbounce.gif So excited!! We are thrilled to have #2 on the way and happy that baby and DS will be nearly 2 years apart, just like we'd hoped for. We live in a very small rural community and feel blessed to have all of our family close. However, with that I'm a little worried that people at work will find out I'm preggers a little before I'm ready for them to know, small town word spreads quickly. So only close friends and family know for now..... 

I'm a little frightened at the thought of having 2 babes in cloth diapers, but know there's tons of other mamas out there that handle it and so can I :-)

Randomness:

I love to snuggle up with a good book, have a day at the park, go to a live music event, and get away to the lake for the weekend. 

 

I'm an only child and DH has a much older brother who's married to a much, much older lady, so our kids will be the only grandkids on both sides of the family. 

 

I love the color green and am obsessed with owls.

 

We are really liking the name Micah Weston, for a girl or a boy. 

 

We haven't decided where we'll be doing this birth. DS was a hospital birth, but I would much rather a birth center, yet the closest one is over an hour away.

 

I'm sure there's more, but that's all for now.

 

I'm absolutely loving reading this thread!!!

 

 

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I love your story- I was a band geek too and my husband is a Police Officer too! I love that you are a Speech-Language Pathologist. My almost 3 year old DS is speech delayed and we are closely working with a SLP in our area. She has been amazing and we are finally seeing some improvements. Congratulations on this baby and I am sorry about your custody battle. I cannot imagine how that feels. Thanks for sharing.

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I'm 27 and DH is 28. We met in high school in band (we were total band geeks) so we've been close friends since we were 15. We never dated in high school though -- we finally got together in 2006 and married in 2007.

 

I have an 8 year old son from a previous relationship. He doesn't currently live with us and we are working with a lawyer to get custody...its just a long drawn out process like custody battles always are. I also have a 3 year old son with DH. They are the sweetest boys ever and I'd be happy to add another boy to the family, but DH is really hoping that baby # 3 is a girl. With my first, I was young and just did whatever my pediatrician recommended without questioning anything so DS1 is fully vaxed, but DS2 is not. I am getting crunchier and crunchier all the time haha! I am looking forward to home birthing, cloth diapering, not vaxing, baby wearing, etc. with the new little one. 


I am a speech-language pathologist. I work in an elementary school. I could get paid a lot more if I worked in a hospital or skilled nursing facility, but I love working with kids and you can't beat the hours - I will get all summer off with my new baby before I even touch my maternity leave. biggrinbounce.gif I love what I do. DH is a police officer. He loves what he does and I'm really proud to be his wife. <3 

 

I love reading about all of you...really looking forward to getting to know everyone! 

 

 

 

 

 



 

post #16 of 47

I turned 30 today (yay!).  Most women probably aren't too excited to turn 30, but I am!  I have one DD from a previous marriage.  SO is 36 and has two kids (a DD and DS) from a previous marriage.  This will be our first together. 

 

I'm a Montessori teacher, currently working in a (kinda) Montessori school as a substitute.  I'm trying to find something else, it's not really what I was hoping it would be.  Too "traditional" for my taste.  I'm thinking of starting an online baby store, it's something I could do from home and not have to report to anyone.  SO owns an IT company and travels for work, but when he's not traveling he's at home (as opposed to an office).  So we have lots of days where we're both here, hanging out.  :)

 

We love to watch movies, play scrabble, take walks, play Wii (I like trivia because it's the only thing I can win at).

 

My favorite colors are green and purple, but not together.  I love the beach, and warm weather in general.  I'm not a fan of cold weather.  I would love to live out in the country with lots of land and animals, but I'm not sure I could actually do it.  I love crafty things.  I love books, art and music, all kinds.

 

I'm so excited to have a home birth, breastfeed, and cloth diaper this little bean!

 

post #17 of 47

I'm 36 and DH is 33. We've been married for 3 years and have been ttc that whole time. I pursued him for 3 years before he finally agreed we could be a couple, so I'm thinking in general I need to wait 3 years for the best things in my life. This will be our first child. I was married before at age 25 and unsuccessfully ttc during that time, too, so I guess you can say I've been waiting 11 years for this baby. The pressure for a successful and healthy pregnancy is on.

 

I currently work as a full time nanny for two different families out of my home. I have a BA in Archaeology and worked as an archaeologist for a while, but I hadn't anticipated that a move to this state would effectively put me out of work. I strung together odd office jobs for a while until I realized that since kids was what I wanted I might as well try to incorporate them into my life in some way until I could have (or adopt) my own. This is the best job I've ever had. One little girl has been coming to my house 4 days per week since she was 8 weeks old (she turns 1 in two weeks) and we have a pretty great bond. Work is fun every day.

 

DH is Roman Catholic and I am Eastern Orthodox so we'll have some big decisions to make in the coming months. At the moment we both attend each other's churches every week, but we can't expect our children to be split like that. 

 

We're hoping to buy the beautiful lake house that DH grew up in sometime in the next year, finances permitting. Both his mother and grandmother passed away this year (I'm considering them for baby names) so the whole family is kind of in a season of change. My mother and his mother were diagnosed with cancer at the same time the November after we got married, but my MIL lost her fight last September. My mother is in remission but is still suffering ill health effects from her treatments. We haven't told any of our family that I'm pregnant yet -- partially because I think we're still both kind of in denial that it's finally happening. I'll feel better when we get some good healthy weeks in and have had a couple of doctor's appointments. The family (with the exception of SIL who hates children) will all be thrilled.

 

I'm hoping for a birth center birth but may be risked out. I'll have an appointment next week to find out for sure.

 

Thanks for the fun thread!

 

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I want to respond to all the posts... but Bubblema, I love montessori for my kids... we have a public montessori school here that is a great fit for them.  I have one son in upper el, another in lower el, and a daughter in children's house.  I want to do the primary ami certification as well....

 

ambermae, I am RC, too, but love love love the Eastern Rite. In our city there is an Eastern Rite church that is in communion with Rome--so it is the best of both worlds.  I wonder if you could find someplace like that?

 

So.... who am I?  I am 33 and a mama to 4 kids--ages, 10 (son) 7 (son) 4.5 (daughter) and baby boy 21 months.  I also met my husband in high school and we were good friends for over 10 years before we started dating.  We both secretly liked each other, though. 

 

I studied classics and philosophy in college.  I currently have two work at home gigs, one is as a search engine evaluator and I also have a archive project/social media thingy for a popular culture icon.  It is kind of crazy, but I like working... I would like to transition to working with toddlers/preschoolers, eventually.

 

I love reading, hiking and camping, music, drawing, talking, gardening, and hanging out with my children. I am introverted, but don't mind public speaking.  My DH works in agriculture and we have done lots of urban ag volunteering in the past, and I currently do a lot for the garden at my kids' school.

 

I love traveling, and spent a lot of time traveling in college. 

 

I love breastfeeding my kids past 2 years, cloth diapering, and food.  My DH is an amazing cook, so I am kind of spoiled there.  I lov eto bake bread an such, but am not a great cook. My favorite cloth diapers are natural materials, like cotton and wool. 

 

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Randomness:

I'd love to live on an urban farm and have a huge garden, some chickens and a cow or goat.

 

I am addicted to homemade GF cookie dough.  I love to cook, bake and sew.  I'd rather scrub toilets and iron clothes than do the dishes.

 

Nesting has kicked in already!  I want to sew baby clothes and newborn diapers and update my maternity wardrobe, but I can't yet because we live with my mom, and we haven't told her, and if she saw me working on those things, she'd figure it our really fast, especially as she's already looking at me funny sometimes.

 

My waist is gone and I've developed a pooch and look pg, though I haven't gained any weight.

 

For some odd reason, I feel really afraid of labor right now, and it's making me upset.


This is all me as well! I can't decide on urban farm or out in the booneys farm. Some part of me wants to live in the boonies on a big spread with all of my family on the same property with me, in their own little houses (mom and dad, sister, 2 brothers, and maybe my MIL too!) but then other days I think it sounds terrible and lonely and the kids will never have any friends and I change my mind again.

 

I'm not GF, but I love to cook bake and sew (normally!), and I despise despise dishes. Especially now, where anything remotely yucky makes me start gagging!

 

Nesting has kicked in. I've got patterns and tutorials saved for DIY maternity clothes that I'm ready to dive into but I don't need them yet and don't have any time /sigh

 

Also have a pooch, and also not looking forward to labour at all. Ugh ugh ugh.


 

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Hello!!  I am Lindsay as well and I am a prenatal yoga instructor/birth doula/Hypnobabies instructor.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE what I do!!  I also teach children's yoga and even have a DVD out that I'm in for 2.5+ yr olds.  So much fun!!  My degree is a B.S. in Exercise Science, which I guess I use to some extent.


That's awesome! Any chance you can PM me your children's DVD info? I've just started looking for some after reading about how awesome it can be for emotional/sensitive children, and having something we can all do together sounds wonderful.

 


 

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We are both kinda nerdy. DH has every D&D book ever printed (or at least it seems like it). I've done a lot of research on the lives of women and children in the Middle Ages.

 

Sounds like my DH. Although his true obsession is World of Warcraft and Starcraft. Ugh.

 

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We were both raised with religion but we do not currently practice any faith. While we want to teach our kids about all faiths, we will not be raising our kids with religion. It will be a challenge for my in-laws to understand and accept this, but I have a feeling that they'll come around.

 

That's us. Both raised in the church, but don't practice any faith. I think DH is still more faith-minded then I am, whenever we do go to church I spend the whole time mentally rolling my eyes and trying to maintain a neutral expression so we're going to have some issues....We want to teach our kids about faiths as well, and have them faith minded in some way but without the religious attachments. The parents will not be happy :/


About me!
I'm Grace, I'm 27... right? Right... Yes. I've been married for 4 years to my husband Jeff, who is 26. We have two kids together. They're 14 months apart, and many many days it's pretty crazy but usually in a good way! I work 32 hours a week at a natural food store as a cashier (or, realistically, a duster. I spend the majority of my time dusting not-very-dusty shelves). My husband works at a hotel as a front desk guy. He likes his job, but is aspiring to be a teacher. He's finishing off his undergrad with hopes of applying to teacher's college next fall... although we'll see about that! We had been talking about selling our house and renting a small apartment or moving in with my or his parents for a year while he does school because there is absolutely no way I can afford mortgage + childcare for a year on my minimum wage job. We were also talking about going to Korea for a year to teach English. Thinking neither of these things are terribly likely now.
I like to read and craft. I sew, needlefelt, do other little toys from felt, embroider, etc... I'm not great at any of them but I'm definitely getting better! It's a recent obsession and I'm not expecting perfectionI had talked about setting up a table at a craft fair and/or setting up an etsy shop, but now that I'm working double the hours I was before I don't think that will happen either!
I am also an aspiring doula. I have finished my training but haven't had a client yet (which I need to finish my certification). I have one due in February who so far definitely wants me as a doula, but I totally suck at this self-marketing thing and have no idea how to find new clients. Someday I'd love to be a midwife, but the 4 years of full time school isn't feasible at this point.
We will be homeschooling our kids, somehow, by hook or by crook! I was homeschooled and the more I hear about school and see coming home from schools the more I know i just cannot send my kid.
Hmm, this entire post is making me feel kind of depressed.
 
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Oh, and I should also probably mention in the "about me" - I carry Muscular Dystrophy. My dad has it, and both of my male cousins had/has it (one died from heart-related complications in his 30's, about 10 years ago). My first two kids are okay. Only boys can have it, but girls can carry it. I had an amniocentisis done with both pregnancy, and probably (sigh) again with this one. Although I'm wondering about just going in for an u/s around 20 weeks, and if it's a girl leaving before they can do the amnio. I have such a strong feeling that this baby is a girl, although it could just be wishful thinking? Girl= no risk, boy = 50/50 risk. We wouldn't do anything (like abort) if we get back sad results, so it's just to know.

 

We weren't planning on any of our children. I honestly don't know if we ever would have had any if it was left up to us, we would have hemmed and hawed and worried and considered and debated and probably never done anything (that's the kind of people we are- all talk, no action!) so it's almost... um... I don't know, perfect is probably the best word? We were talking about going for IVF with preimplantation genetic diagnosis once Orrin turned 2, and then... uh, this happened! We're happy regardless, but thinking we seriously need to step up our contraception in the future. The way we're looking at it, it just means these three kids were definitely Meant To Be.

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