My DD, who will be 5 next month, still wakes up wet every single morning despite the fact that she's been out of diapers during the day for over three years! I assumed that since she PLed so early, nighttime dryness would soon follow. Nope. My son also went into underwear quite young and was wet at night for a while, but I know that by 4.5 yo he was totally dry every night. And with him it was like flipping a switch: just one morning he was dry and he hasn't had even one accident since. I assumed DD would be the same and that she just wasn't physically ready to be dry at night yet, so I haven't been pressuring her about it at all. DH has been grumbling about it, however, and now I'm thinking maybe we need to do something about it.
I have her in cloth pull-ups, so she feels the wetness, but she just doesn't care. I've tried having her pee at bedtime then waking her when I go to bed but she's often already wet. I also just discovered that she was sometimes peeing in her pull-up in the morning because she didn't feel like getting out of bed to go to the bathroom. I talked to her about that and told her that if she's awake she absolutely should use the toilet! Even so, that doesn't solve the nighttime wetness.
So I guess I'm wondering is this something we can work on or is it a physiological thing, i.e., she's just not ready yet? I don't think I'd even call it "bed-wetting" because she's never had even one dry night in her life. I don't want to push her but I have to admit it's really a pain to wash just one CD a day! She also is now begging to have sleepovers and I'm reluctant to let her because all her friends are in underwear at night and I don't want her to feel bad about it.
Any advice greatly appreciated!