Brandon, my step son lose his mother about half a year ago and doesn’t want to move in with us at all. But we made him move in with us. We have been trying everything to help him out as much as possible. We have been trying really hard to keep him as happy as possible, but nothing seems to work.
We have a large house, two large flat screen tv for everyone to use, Netflix account, wireless internet, nearly every video game systems and tons of games available, and everyone have their own laptop and tv in their room as well.
We thought Brandon would be so excitied about this since back home, his family doesn’t have a tv and have to share one laptop. It was totally opposite, he haven’t touched any video game systems, never sat down to watch tv, use laptop only for a hour or two at night, and even took his brand new flat screen tv apart to make a ceiling mounted projector for his laptop so he can use wireless keyboard and mouse!
Brandon keep asking for membership to rock climbing gym or mixed martial arts gym since he use to have both back home.We don’t want to pay for it because if we did, all kids will want this or that and it would get expensive and become difficult to transport everyone and we really don’t have time to drive them around all day.
Brandon end up always stay in garage tinkering with things if he’s not out running around. He’s never home either. He also really hate school now since it doesn’t provide ROTC program like as his old school did. He have been known to manipulate kids into things as well. We just found out the rumor of him being responsible for getting four kids arrested was true and he got away!
He have been sneaking out for a long time and it is always incredibly hard to catch him. We have caught him only twice and even then it wasn’t easy and take a lot of works and efforts.
We also just found out that he was making a lot of things we don’t approve of in garage! He have been making lock picking kit, firework materials, climbing gears, night vision goggle that actually work, and other things.
He also doesn’t seems to have any friend or anything. He’s always lone and distant. Punishing him doesn’t work at all either. He just keep say he don’t even want to be here and hate living here.
It is extremely hard and stressful. This is just tip of iceberg, there are so much more going on and that is just what we found out. We don’t know what to do any more.