I had been interested in the concept of homebirthing, but as a first time mom, and totally new to babies and birthing, I naively thought I'd be better off at a hospital annex birth center. I remember mid-pregnancy, meeting another pregnant mom on the street who told me she was planning a homebirth. I was so impressed.
Not long after that I found out I was carrying twins, which disqualified me from birthing centers and CNMs in my area, despite my excellent health and ideal configuration (di-di, vertex-vertex). My doctors, the ones who hadn't a clue I was carrying twins until the routine u/s, got very interventionist. I did some research and realized that I was out of luck for a natural birth in my area unless I planned a homebirth with a lay midwife.
During the late part of my pregnancy, when I was doing parallel care, I was very, very angry about our system. I felt like I had been mugged. I didn't plan on having twins (spontaneous), and I didn't sign up for the mass of unnecessarily fear-mongering. On a deep level, I felt that the money out of pocket I was paying the midwife was RANSOM money, that I was buying my way out of being cut open against my will and protecting my babies from birth before their time. I did try to have reasonable conversations with my OBs, but was told things like "the longer the birth plan, the more certain the c/s" and "I won't do anything I'm not comfortable with" (ie a trial of labor and vaginal twin birth.) My well researched and considered preferences meant nothing to my docs, and there were no good alternatives. My hospital had an 80% twin c/s rate, and another hospital told me I'd have to "qualify to be ambulatory."
I loved my homebirth, so my twin pregnancy turned out to be a blessing. It kept me home when I might have risked a hospital birth with a singleton. Now I passionately believe homebirth should be a safe, well attended option for most women. And I'm pretty horrified by a system that offered me such poor choices, and by a society that wants to take away what few choices I do have.
More power to all those wonderful women who choose to be homebirth midwives and doulas, and may we all do our part to improve women's choices to homebirth by standing by skilled providers and raising flags about inept ones.