I have not been on the mothering.com forums in a bit. I shied away from them because they are so publicly viewable, but I keep coming back and lurking. It really is a great community, so I thought I would go ahead and jump back in, especially since I am really in a moment of need.
I have been in a 18+ year relationship, and for so long, I have thought that the dysfunction of my childhood was something I handled and got over. "It wasn't so bad. Nothing compared to what others have suffered through." But finally I **heard** my DH say that I needed to grow up. Here I am in my late 30s, and finally hearing -- after the millionth time of him saying-- that I need to grow up, that I need to do something or he will leave me.
It makes my stomach turn.
My sister has been able to make great strides in her personal growth after learning about ACOA. That was about a year ago...now I am finally realizing I need to really face how the dysfunctionality I learned as a child has been affecting me this whole time.
I am now reading Becoming My Own Parent, and I am just starting to accept that I am struggling with typical issues of adult children, codependency and passive aggressiveness. I have created so many problems for myself and for husband.
I searched for an active thread on the forums for ACOA issues, but could not fine one. Am I missing it? Or shall we start one here?
If not, can anyone recommend an active forum elsewhere that could be helpful? There are no ACOA meetings near me, so I am trying to find other means for "fellowship."
Edited by luchadora13 - 9/14/11 at 5:49am