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BFing comfort

post #1 of 20
Thread Starter 

So, besides your actual breasts, how is your body feeling with your bfing? I have a sore back and tight neck, but my wrists are feeling the most pain. I mostly do the cradle hold, and usually one handed so I can goof off online. 

 

Any tips on getting more comfortable or having better posture?  I have a boppy, but DS just falls through the crack between me and the boppy.  And I seem to lose a good latch if I prop my elbow up on a pillow. What do you do?  

post #2 of 20
FWIW, I had the same problem with the Boppy. I think the My Brest Friend pillow works sooo much better as a nursing pillow.

As for my body... Meh. Totally wrecked from nursing. Specifically my neck and shoulders, and mostly from all the night nursing. Sleeping with your arm and neck in an awkward position for two years will do that I guess smile.gif

I've noticed more tightness in my shoulders and upper back from holding this new LO up to the breast, but that will go away as she gets older and needs less neck support. In general, I think that holding a baby all freaking day is harder work than moms get credit for. In my 2 and a half years of nursing, I don't think I've ever been comfortable. I think you more just get used to putting your own discomfort at the wayside.

I too have had bad luck with using pillows to prop myself comfortably. It's like my kids KNOW that I'm comfortable, and either the latch or the attitude falls apart!
post #3 of 20

Oh yeah, these big ole babies with no head support kill your arms, neck, and shoulders!!

 

I use the boppy but i also use my arm...its really quite comfy.  

 

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i find the boppy is just too low.  

 

Im  just really stiff and creaky from sleeping so still in one position.

 

post #4 of 20

I personally can't stand to use pillows while bfing. My spot at home is on the couch and I just curl my legs under my arm and prop it up that way. Night has always been the hardest on my body, that and baby wearing. I have an old shoulder injury from when I worked in a nursing home years and years ago. The odd positions at night and strain of baby carriers on that shoulder is what gets me every time. It never feels normal but when it gets bad it feel like it is literally on fire with every little movement. It was like that on Sunday, I really need to go to my chiro, as soon as I have regular childcare again that I can count on, then I'm calling!

post #5 of 20

i was propping my feet on the recliner and shifting my hip for the past 4 weeks.  My sciatica is killing me from doing this!!  The pillow is annoying but better than the pain.

post #6 of 20

I found with DS that shirts that have 'top down' nursing access instead of 'bottom up', promote better posture.

 

Right now, I'm actually nursing and typing with 2 hands :)

 

Cate's head is tucked on my left forearm near the elbow, nursingon the left side. I'm sitting on the left side of my rocker (it's a wide one, I'll share a photo of it later, it's not like a traditional one at all), with my elbow propped on the arm. Her tushie is more or less on my right leg, close to my body, and her feet are hanging off the side of my lap. My feet are on my little angled nursing foot stool, and the coomputer is on a TV tray/table pulled up close over my knees. I have one big pillow behind my back, b/c this chair is so deep.

 

When I sit like this, I am nearly sitting up straight, and if I stop typing, I can be sitting up totally straight :) Cate's over all position is like a semi-reclined sitting position with only her head turned in towards me to nurse.

 

That saves my back/neck/shoulders.

 

If you are using shirts you pull up to nurse with, try wearing some deep V-neck shirts over your nursing tanks/bras (or try the Undercover Mama 'shirts'), and see if pulling a neck opening down helps. W/o changing anything else last time (pillows, support etc.) I found just the wardrobe adjustment to help with my nursing posture.

post #7 of 20
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Originally Posted by Italiamom View Post

As for my body... Meh. Totally wrecked from nursing. Specifically my neck and shoulders, and mostly from all the night nursing. Sleeping with your arm and neck in an awkward position for two years will do that I guess smile.gif


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I've been sleeping with my arm under one of my kids for almost two years now. I was just talking to my husband about this last night. The last time we slept in a bed together with no kids and me not pregnant was his midtour leave from Afghanistan in January 2009. I don't even remember what it's like to sleep in whatever position I want and not have to be aware of who might fall out of the bed.

post #8 of 20
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Originally Posted by SynEpona View Post

I found with DS that shirts that have 'top down' nursing access instead of 'bottom up', promote better posture.

 

Right now, I'm actually nursing and typing with 2 hands :)

 

Cate's head is tucked on my left forearm near the elbow, nursingon the left side. I'm sitting on the left side of my rocker (it's a wide one, I'll share a photo of it later, it's not like a traditional one at all), with my elbow propped on the arm. Her tushie is more or less on my right leg, close to my body, and her feet are hanging off the side of my lap. My feet are on my little angled nursing foot stool, and the coomputer is on a TV tray/table pulled up close over my knees. I have one big pillow behind my back, b/c this chair is so deep.

 

When I sit like this, I am nearly sitting up straight, and if I stop typing, I can be sitting up totally straight :) Cate's over all position is like a semi-reclined sitting position with only her head turned in towards me to nurse.

 

That saves my back/neck/shoulders.

 

If you are using shirts you pull up to nurse with, try wearing some deep V-neck shirts over your nursing tanks/bras (or try the Undercover Mama 'shirts'), and see if pulling a neck opening down helps. W/o changing anything else last time (pillows, support etc.) I found just the wardrobe adjustment to help with my nursing posture.

 

Now that you mention it, I do notice a difference in which shirts I use. Can you come over to my house and give me a bfing comfort tutorial? 

post #9 of 20

I also LOVE my brest friend pillow. I use it at every nursing. My neck and back do hurt some from sitting up in bed and nursing.

 

Is there anyone else with large breasts here? I just feel like I am never going to be able to nurse without supporting my breast with one hand. As soon as I let it go he unlatches because it falls down. If it wasn't for my pillow supporting his head I would never have a hand free. I also don't know how I am ever going to get comfortable nursing in public because I have to use both hands the entire time. The cradle hold just doesn't work for us.. Any advice?

post #10 of 20
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Originally Posted by karalynnskies View Post

I also LOVE my brest friend pillow. I use it at every nursing. My neck and back do hurt some from sitting up in bed and nursing.

 

Is there anyone else with large breasts here? I just feel like I am never going to be able to nurse without supporting my breast with one hand. As soon as I let it go he unlatches because it falls down. If it wasn't for my pillow supporting his head I would never have a hand free. I also don't know how I am ever going to get comfortable nursing in public because I have to use both hands the entire time. The cradle hold just doesn't work for us.. Any advice?



I was a DD before I got pregnant, and went up a couple (2 or three) cup sizes over the past year. I cross my legs and do a cradle hold in public. My legs give me extra support for holding him where he needs to be. I hear you about having to hold your breast in place when feeding him. Laying down that isn't a problem for me, really because of my boob holding itself up. 

 

I played around with my posture when using the pillow. If I sit up as straight as I can my boob is just about where it should be for him to have a good latch. I've got to be very careful noot to suffocate him with boob tissue when I do that though. 

post #11 of 20
I often use a regular pillow in my lap and a couch pillow to prop up one side of the pillow for feeding. I also will put my feet up on a table or automan or cross my legs and just hold DS. I don't seem to get too sore from sitting, but sleeping makes my back really sore. Mostly when the children sleep nurse. I recently ordered a snoogle pillow. I am hoping it will make night nursing on the side lying position better. I'll let you guys know when it gets here.
post #12 of 20
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Originally Posted by karalynnskies View Post

I also LOVE my brest friend pillow. I use it at every nursing. My neck and back do hurt some from sitting up in bed and nursing.

 

Is there anyone else with large breasts here? I just feel like I am never going to be able to nurse without supporting my breast with one hand. As soon as I let it go he unlatches because it falls down. If it wasn't for my pillow supporting his head I would never have a hand free. I also don't know how I am ever going to get comfortable nursing in public because I have to use both hands the entire time. The cradle hold just doesn't work for us.. Any advice?


My main pain is from that boob-holding wrist! ;) If I let go, he can't breathe.

I have found that if I get him on the pillow just right and then rotate him away from me juust enough that I can sometimes let go of tit and he can nurse happily without me doing any holding. These are fabulous times ;) That only works when I'm in my recliner - pillow on my lap, slightly over the side so his head is up a bit :)

post #13 of 20

Once they get more control of their heads and necks, it should be a LOT easier for you gals.  

post #14 of 20

I'm a big boobed mama too. (34I/J) I use the My Brest Friend pillow, plus a cushion for my back and another cushion at the side I'm nursing on all on my gliding rocker. Once the stitches fall out I'll switch to doing some of my feeds on the sofa with my legs crossed and just the nursing pillow, as I found that quite comfortable last time with DS1. I find its the night feeds in bed that kill my back, as I just have my legs for support and beds aren't great for nursing sitting up.

 

I'll second Carrie that it does get easier once the baby grows a little and can support their own head more. Then you'll be able to take the second hand away occasionally without unlatching. For now just enjoy the excuse to do nothing while you nurse.

post #15 of 20

Im dying here- night nursing is killing my back and neck - any position suggestions greatly appreciated.

post #16 of 20

You ladies were right. Jude has so much more head control and breast feeding has become WAY easier. I can not believe I am actually able to do the cradle hold now. One handed breast feeding is awesome!! lol

 

Nald When I nurse at night I just lay down and do the side lying position. That way I can nod back off while he eats. I was killing my back and neck in the beginning as well by sitting up. I was nervous to fall asleep with him eating at first but now that is the only way I survive!

post #17 of 20
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Originally Posted by karalynnskies View Post

You ladies were right. Jude has so much more head control and breast feeding has become WAY easier. I can not believe I am actually able to do the cradle hold now. One handed breast feeding is awesome!! lol

 

Nald When I nurse at night I just lay down and do the side lying position. That way I can nod back off while he eats. I was killing my back and neck in the beginning as well by sitting up. I was nervous to fall asleep with him eating at first but now that is the only way I survive!



I do lie down - It's having my head on top of my bottom arm that's killing me.  Do you put your head flat or propped?

post #18 of 20

I tried side lying again this morning after he had nursed and my breast wasn't as full.  He had already burped and i held upright for a few minutes, but he wasn't quite falling back asleep.  So I tried.  Dozed for a few minutes, I think.  Then woke up to him puking all over me.

 

Sigh.

 

I'm so tired.  Sidelying saved my life with DD.  This kid is literally sucking the life out of me!!  mecry.gif

post #19 of 20

carrie, have you tried laying down on your back and have him across your chest, w feet on the bed and nurse that way? he is face down this way so that may help? you cant really fall a sleep this way but it is more restful that sittin up. i m sorry if you tried and i did not work - and i missed it...just thought i would thow it out there..

post #20 of 20
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Originally Posted by nald1 View Post

I do lie down - It's having my head on top of my bottom arm that's killing me.  Do you put your head flat or propped?


I put him down on the bed in reach and then get comfortable on my side. Pillow between my knees, pillow under my head and then drag him close and stuff a boob in his mouth. If something is hurting you, cut it out! Find a good way, first. I wiggle a lot because it's not the greatest on my hips to lay like that without more torso support, too, but it's better than getting up ;)

 

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