DD (14) has been upset for a long time that I allow DS (4) to watch TV. His TV time coincided with her coming home from school because that's when I needed to get started with dinner, etc. Two weeks ago she wrote me a long letter and criticized my parenting and told me that she's worried that I'm ruining DS's brain by letting him watch TV. I had a long conversation with her about it, and I told her that I think she's right about the TV, and I'm eliminating TV time during the week for both of them.
DS is adjusting to the change really well. It's been 10 days, and he maybe asks for a show once a day, and he's easily distracted with games, books, time on the swing, etc.
DD, on the other hand, is angry. She wants to be able to watch TV again. I know she's been watching Netflix when we're not home, but I haven't said anything about it. On Monday she asked if she could watch one show during the week, and I said I'd think about it. Today she called while I was working and asked again. I said I'd like her to try to go TV-free during the week for two months, and then we'd reasses. She hung up on me. Grrrr.
TV was never a big deal with her before this, but I think she got hooked on it while she was staying with her dad this summer. My thinking was that after two months she'd remember that she has other interests (which she does). I don't want to fight about it, and I don't want to make her more rebellious. I also think it's unfair if she's allowed to watch and her brother's not, and I really am happy that he's losing interest in it. But I'm worried if I'm too strict with her I'm creating a beast.
What to do?