Like other Mamas on this forum, I find myself questioning if what I'm going through is what the majority of Mamas to 2-year-olds go through or if my ds is particularly "spirited." Today, we had the entire morning together so we spent time making pancakes, taking a shower, listening to music--we had a blast. Then, time to get dressed. He has wanted to go to the library for 2 days so that was the plan. Getting diaper on and dressed has been a challenge for awhile, but generally one of the tools I've accumulated over the last couple years works. But today he was particularly adamant in his refusal. I tried giving him choices (eg) do you want to put it on yourself or should Mama do it? do you want to put your shirt or your diaper on first? I tried making the diaper talk to him like a puppet. I tried giving him some time to play, since we were in no rush, and coming back to it. Still no luck. I tried counting (recently has been working very well) (eg) "ds, I'm going to count to 3 and if you haven't started putting your diaper on I'm going to help you put it on" The problem with this is when it doesn't work (he just looked at me and made no movements) because then what? the only option if he doesn't want to do it is force it on him. So I learned my lesson on that one- it was a dead end. So, on we went. Eventually, I told him that if he wants to go to the library, we need to wear a diaper and clothes. "why?" he says. That's the newest question he's been asking. So I explained why, that at home we can go with no clothes, but at the library we are expected to wear them. See, Mama's wearing her clothes! No luck. So we don't get to go to the library. ( I even considered whether they would let him in without clothes! IS it neccessary?!)
The difficulty for me in the whole ordeal is 1) I get so frustrated and know it would feel so much better if we could just leave the house, get out, have some fun but we can't get out the door! I guess the frustration and feeling of being contained to the negative energy we've created in the house is difficult. and 2) at what point am I enabling him to kick and scream and he will get his way?
Also, any other creative ideas to work with these situations, which come in many forms at this age, I would be grateful for.