DH had a very rocky childhood and has always had a bad relationship with his mom. She is very abusive, manipulative, controlling, a drug addict and an alcoholic. Oh, and she has stolen countless things from us. He has always put up with it because she's his mom and he felt like he had too. She carried over all the control/manipulation crud into our marriage. Last Oct. after a particularly upsetting and eye-opening event DH has been working to put an end to it. He wouldn't communicate with her for a while but would eventually cave and talk to her or let her come over. Of course it would always end in some major fight/blowup. A couple months ago he said enough was enough and we've had no communication with her.
She showed up at our home on 9/4, at our back door and it took several minutes to get her to leave. She will send emails every 2-3 days trying to get a response out of DH and will occasionally call. The emails are ridiculous. Last night she sent DH an email saying she was going to be allowed to see 'her grandchildren' soon and asked him if he got the paperwork. We haven't gotten any paperwork, so I called our County's Juvenile Court and nothing has been filed. We went to the police station promptly and filed a report. They told us an officer would be calling her telling her to cease and desist and if she contacted us again she would be criminally charged.
I have researched Grandparents' Rights in my state extensively (legally called third-party visitation). She would not get any visitation. In my state there are three cases in which the court might consider granting visitation in. Divorce, death of a parent, and an unmarried mother refusing to let the Gparents to see the child/ren. So, I am not worried about that.
I am rambling I guess. Is there something DH and I should next? Talk to an attorney just in case she tries something? Wait it out? She's made comments insinuating that she was going to involve CPS if we don't let her come over, so I guess we have that hanging over us as well. DH and I are really tired of this.