I am a super white girl. I look very Caucasian. have a Four year old son (who will be 5 by the time the new baby comes). He is from a previous marriage and is also white(mostly Irish)... also very Caucasian looking: fair skinned, blue eyed, light brown hair. my partner at this time is Half Japanese and we are expecting a baby girl in Jan. Seeing my bf's nieces and nephews I'm expecting this baby to be very Japanese looking, even tho she'll only be a quarter Japanese.
how, or should i even, prepare my son for the fact that his new little sister isn't going to look like him... He has "cousins" on my partner's side that he knows are not white(they are 1/2Mexican, 1/4 white and 1/4 Japanese... but look very much Japanese) and he identifies them as his family. he calls my partner's mom (full Japanese) grandma. i don't think he really will have a problem with it, but I'm not sure really.
I'm also worried about how he may react to other people's reactions of the kids being different races. he is very protective and if someone doubts they are siblings he will probably get very offended.
how can i help them as they grow to deal with the public? are there any other things i should be concerned about or looking for?
also any tips on how to prepare myself for having a child that may look so very different from me? my son looks exactly like a blue eyed light haired version of me, but I'm not so sure about this one. we already get a lot of looks as a family with my bf being Japanese but I'm not sure how i'll handle the stares or comments when it's me and my children alone.