I am also taking things one step at a time....when I buy new products, I buy as nontoxic as I can afford but I can't afford to replace all our furniture and mattresses right now - for the mattresses I at least got wool mattress pads but organic mattresses are just out of our reach right now.
Cleaning supplies seemed like one of the biggest sources of toxins and one of the easiest to get rid of - I just make my own.
Personal care products were not that hard either - I don't use many anyway so I just started buying organic nontoxic things - toothpaste, shampoo and conditioner, soap. facewash, deodorant (cool days I go without deodorant) - I rarely wear makeup so I still have the typical makeup but once it runs out I'll replace it with natural things. I use coconut oil as moisturizer.
I bought a bunch of houseplants that are supposed to filter air - I would love an austin air filter but it's out of our range also so I vacuum with a HEPA vacuum and open windows as much as possible
We rent right now so things like flooring are out of our control - our building was designed to be eco friendly so at least paint was no VOC, no carpet glue, etc.
We cant afford to eat all organic. We buy organic beef but we don't eat it much. I still buy normal chicken from the grocery store because we can't afford organic. I make sure all dairy is free of growth hormones but it's not organic. I buy organic as much as I can afford and I cook almost everything from scratch. We have an apartment so a garden is sadly not an option right now.
I tried to keep things nontoxic for my dd but thanks to family she now has an abundance of plastic toys (she's almost 3) - I am not as concerned since she is past the point of putting things in her mouth but I wish we didn't have so much plastic!! I won't buy her flame retardant pajamas, she sleeps in normal cotton clothing. she has an organic wool mattress pad and organic sheets, but a regular mattress.
We have very few plastic kitchen things - dd eats from regular plates or stainless steel bowls. We try to store things in glass and I use fabric reusable snack bags. I got rid of all my teflon and use cast iron or stainless steel. I try to buy food in glass containers whenever available.
We don't use perfumes, air fresheners, etc. I use cloth diapers and mama cloth. We use rags for cleaning adn reusable sponges. I use family cloth part time for myself and dd but we also use toilet paper...i make sure not to get anything scented.
We don't vaccinate and don't use medicine unless absolutely necessary...we always look for a natural solution to illness first.
i TOTALLY feel overwhelmed all the time and frustrated that I don't have more control about what chemicals my family is exposed to. Writing this list helped me feel better because I see how much i HAVE done, even though sometimes it seems like there is SO much more I should be doing and so many toxins we are still exposed to.
Hopefully one day the US will actually put safety over profits, but I'm not holding my breath
I try to focus on small steps and realize that every small step is one less toxin my family is exposed to