asperger's and caring for oneself

[umami_mommy]

my 41 year old husband most likely has asperger's. 

he has a medical condition that he needs to take meds/vitamins for. he will do it for a while and then just stops. how can i gets him to remember to follow through? does anyone one have any systems that work? special charts or apps? 

i can't remind him, because he gets resentful and then passive aggressive and then won't take them on purpose. 

any suggestions? 

[Emmeline II]

Originally Posted by umami_mommy 

my 41 year old husband most likely has asperger's. 

he has a medical condition that he needs to take meds/vitamins for. he will do it for a while and then just stops. how can i gets him to remember to follow through? does anyone one have any systems that work? special charts or apps? 

i can't remind him, because he gets resentful and then passive aggressive and then won't take them on purpose. 

any suggestions? 

I read "Raising a Self-Disciplined Child" this summer and solution that was mentioned a lot (usually regarding chores) is to have a meeting, agree on the problem, agree on a solution(s), and specify how the person would like to be reminded.

[Plummeting]

Is he really forgetting, or does he start feeling okay and then deciding he doesn't want to take them?

[umami_mommy]

well, he doesn't want to have to be bothered with taking them. so he forgets. he's like that with a lot of things. 

[beachcomber]

My 43 year old husband is Type 1 Diabetic and very likely has Asperger's as well. We've struggled in the past with him testing his blood sugar levels often enough and planning ahead. He'd often have a low and not have anything nearby to help him. So we talked about it and I pointed out that when he puts me in the role of parent, it never works out because he resents me watching over his health. So he agreed to take responsibility for it by charting it on the fridge until I felt sure enough that he was doing it so he could chart more privately. It's worked out well. Also, reminding him that his kids depend on him so he needs to maintain his good health for their sake helped hugely.