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post #21 of 44

Loudmama, I'm w/ you on the slow digestion!  The extra iron supplement is killing me, and I can't seem to keep water in me, peeing all the time, so when it does happen, it's extremely difficult to pass.  hug2.gifThis is the part that I hate!  But it will get better!!

 

post #22 of 44
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But it will get better!!

 


Promise?

 

post #23 of 44

It will end!! promise!

 

 

those sound good, I might try them with the peanut butter oreos I have.

 

I am feeling better, I can drink water again and eat pretty much anything. so super excited.  I am now 12 weeks and a day.woohoo! super glad that already I am feeling better, even while I was sick i wasn't as sick as I was with the girls


Edited by Thursday Girl - 9/19/11 at 3:33pm
post #24 of 44
I am currently on day 4 of not vomiting!! Yay!! I've still had a little bit if nausea here and there, but that's not as bad. Most of the time when I've been throwing up, it's been before I had anything in my stomach, so only stomach acid has come up which is NOT pleasant. I actually gagged a little writing that, so sorry to anyone who might have as well! Energy is still down. But I'm also dealing with a rambunctious toddler so that could be part of it. She's starting her terrible two's and it is just driving me CRAZY!! I feel bad, but my fuse is just so short right now and the littlest things just set me off. I'll be 12 weeks on Thursday and I am really hoping things start to settle down. Thursday won't be fun though because DD and I will be driving down to California by ourselves for the weekend and she is not the best at long trips. Wish us luck!
post #25 of 44

Warning - long whine coming up, sorry for jumping in like this but I just haven't had time to 'chat' until now and apparently I have a lot to say!

 

It's so reassuring to read that I'm not the only one having major issues with food!  I am constantly hungry or feeling queasy from not eating the right thing (usually protein, but sometimes a bit of fruit does the trick). I am so sick of trying to figure out what I can eat that actually appeals to me and will satisfy my hunger for more than half an hour. If I wait too long I get that 'food panic' mode which is when I beg DH to bring me something, anything, quick before I feel like puking. I'm also so tired and lazy feeling, I'm sure that if I ate better (more iron, maybe?) it would help, but that would require using more energy to actually prepare food. I'm flying from Australia to California on Thursday and I'm so nervous about feeling crappy on the flight, being sensitive to smells (this is the only thing that has made me actually puke so far), and not being able to sleep in the uncomfortable seats. Normally I don't mind long-haul flights at all, after living overseas from my family for 10 years, I'm quite used to it, but I'm just not myself anymore.

 

To continue my whining, I bought a scale this week after not having one for years, since I thought it would be good to have an idea of how much I weigh early on in the pregnancy (I'm almost 9 weeks). The last time I weighed myself was around February, at the gym and I was 128 lb.  When I weighed myself on this new scale (that I bought for $9 at Kmart, probably a mistake to buy the cheapest one), it said I was over 140 lbs!!   Talk about scale shock!  I am naturally slim (have never worried about gaining weight) and have not weighed over 130 my entire life, or so I thought. For the first time in my life I understood some women's obsession with losing weight/dieting/working out.

I guess the past few months of sitting in front of my desk all day working on my PhD thesis have really added up. I know it's not all from the pregnancy because quite a few of my pants became too tight long before I was pregnant. I haven't noticed much weight gain in the past month or two, except my boobs becoming huge, but I don't think that can add an extra 10 pounds. I want to believe that the scale is somewhat off, because DH got on it and it said he weighed a lot more than he thinks he does, and he's been exercising lately and looks in good shape.  I am seriously considering asking nicely if I can hop on the scale they use to weigh luggage at the airport on Thursday, I assume it will be more accurate than the dodgy Kmart one.

 

At least DH is understanding about it, I think he is actually enjoying my body becoming more 'voluptuous' as he calls it, certainly he doesn't mind my new boobs. I know this is the time when we're 'allowed' to gain weight but at the moment I'm surprised that I feel like a fat blob who is only going to get fatter. I wish I would have been more physically active before getting pregnant, now I get so tired just going for a walk so I don't see how I can exercise enough to prevent myself from turning into a giant flab monster. 

I think I will get back into yoga, starting today. That can help a lot to make me feel better about my body.

 

post #26 of 44

I just about snapped at some fellow customers at the pharmacy the other day.  I'm glad to know I'm not the only one with insane blood sugar issues!

post #27 of 44

chapluqa, I'm with you on the smells.  I flew recently--though thankfully not for a long overseas flight!--and the smells in the airport were way worse than on the airplane.  But I imagine there will actually be food served on your flight not to mention all the food people will bring on that may make it worse.  I brought with me a small vial of this roll-on peppermint oil aromatherapy I've had for ages (was small enough to fit in my liquids carry-on bag) and rolled it on my wrists to smell when other smells would get overwhelming.  Also just smelling the bottle directly helped.  Perhaps you could dilute some essential oils that smell fresh/good to you in any kind of carrier oil or even water and put it in a small vial to take with you?  Take plenty of small snacks with some protein in them to keep hunger at bay and any emergency items that may help you feel better if nausea strikes (for some reason, salty crispy potato chips sometimes hit the spot for me even though I normally can't stand the idea), mints/gum and what not.

 

I always carry quart-sized zip-top bags with me and have them close at hand at all times in case I DO have to puke and can't get to a bathroom--with seatbelt lights and so forth, that may come in handy.

 

I had my daughter sneak onto the airport luggage scale and no one seemed to mind ;-)  Don't worry too much about the weight--my experience last time was (with breastfeeding and just being darn busy running around caring for a new babe) that the weight just fell off in a matter of weeks except perhaps the last 5 lbs, which DEFINITELY was my boobs!  Even with eating WAY more while nursing...  I know how crazy it can be to see that scale reach new heights that you've never seen before--perhaps consider NOT checking your weight and asking your care provider to not inform you if things seem OK, if you decide to have them weigh you.  Then you can take the focus off the actual number.

 

Good luck on your trip--your adrenaline about it will probably help you out a bit!

post #28 of 44

good luck with your trips ladies. Hope things work out well.

 

I didn't really care about my appt before, but now I want my first appt already. I have 9 days until the appt and it's my own fault it is so late. I'm 12 weeks 3 days. I am also really hoping that things in florida cool down soon b/c the heat is overwhelming. Just doing laundry in the un-air conditioned laundry room made me nauseuas (well that and the 6 cookies I ate combined).

 

I want to be more immersed in this baby thing, and there is still so much time. A long time before Hubs will talk names (20 weeks when we know the sex), no midwife appts, right now. I should start sewing for the baby but I really need to make the girls halloween costumes. the search through my fabric is daunting, and I am still hoping to find a flowy white dress at a thrift store for my oldests costume. I guess I don't know what I want but MORE baby.

post #29 of 44

I hear ya Courtney.  I really have nothing do to for this baby, except some sewing which has to wait until I finish my other projects.  I want to DO something, but there's nothing to buy/shop for really.  My best friend will eventually return my pump, and I'll put new tubes/parts on that, but that's a ways off and not super fun.  That's basically it.  I wonder what I can do to keep my baby brain busy?

 

chapluqa, re. the scale, why don't you just use your scale and ignore the actual number?  It doesn't really matter what the number is; it only matters that you're gaining a healthy amount.  So whether its 100 lb or 150 lb now, if you're gaining at a reasonable rate you'll still be able to tell.  But yeah, it is still frustrating to see numbers you aren't expecting.  My midwife weighs me with clothes and shoes on, which inevitably adds like 5 lbs.

 

As for me, I'm supposed to take a stupid 2 hour exam the first week of November, and the last time I took it the seating was those little chair/desk combos like they have in high schools and colleges.  I've requested a table and chair in case my belly is too big to fit in the little desks, but they want a note from my midwife to accommodate the request.  I felt really stupid calling the midwife's office for a "note" to get a table and chair.  At 18/19 weeks, I'd probably be fine in a desk, but I don't want to risk being super uncomfortable....

 

 

post #30 of 44

chapluqa - I have to weigh every day b/c if I don't, I will totally lose track of where I am.  And I still get surprised from time to time with a big number I wasn't expecting.  With the slow digestion issues, that makes it worse, but gives me a bit of an excuse, lol..."well, if I wasn't so full of poo, I wouldn't have gained 2 pounds since yesterday!"  LOL!!  You'll be ok, doing some light excercise will definately help you feel better, but try not to obsess  << Says the woman who weighs herself daily!  I know!!  But I agree w/ JustKate, as long as you are gaining an appropriate amount of weight, the numbers themselves don't matter.  I think throughout the pregnancy, 22-24 pounds is considered the healthy average of weight gain...so if you divide that by trimester, you'd be doing well to gain 8 pounds per trimester. hug2.gif You'll be fine!!  And gorgeous!!  blowkiss.gif

 

We had DD's 2nd grade open house last night, and her teacher, her friend's moms, and even her old kindergarten teacher, came up to me and told me congratulations, lol.  I said to her kinderg. teacher, "Wow, Sage sure has a big mouth!" LOL!!  Everyone was so kind and sweet, it was nice.  We love her teacher, she was also DD's 1st grade teacher and got to move up w/ the kids b/c another teacher retired.  Very cool!  First field trip is to an apple orchard, and I think I will chaperone this one b/c the last one of the year is usually in April, and the last thing I want to do is have a baby on the school bus w/ 2 classes of 2nd graders watching, lol!! 

post #31 of 44

I need to have my husband read this post.  He is killing me.  This is our first baby and he just doesn't get it yet.  I feel like crap 24/7 and he is just going to have to weather it out.  He has been super helpful with meals but I am just so irritable and short that he gets a little taste of it at least a couple times a day.  No yelling or tantrums - just short and not the friendliest responses.  I've tried to explain that I feel like smacking him and throwing something across the room so a short response is not that bad, but I don't think he gets it.  I am literally not in control of my emotions.  He feels "unappreciated" even though I tell him 100 times a day how much appreciate all that he is doing - taking care of the dogs, making dinner, etc.  I feel bad for him, but really I don't care.  I want to tell him to suck it up and deal.  It doesn't help that he is the stereotypical female and I am the stereotypical male in our relationship.  He is talkative, friendly, loves shopping, wants to spend 30 minutes talking about how our days went.  I am the introverted engineer who tends to give one word answers, can't stand shopping and would rather spend those 30 minutes reading. 

 

Hopefully things will get back to normal in a few weeks.

post #32 of 44

I'm SO glad to hear I'm not the only one with the food crazies!! I actually cried the other night because nothing we had sounded any good to me! The past few days I've been upset because I wasn't *feeling* pregnant anymore, I don't really know how to describe it. I'm glad that ended today, especially when I started bawling after listening to this song: http://youtu.be/PbHe7qQGD0Y

In all reality I think the song would have made me tear up regardless of being pregnant or not, lol!

post #33 of 44
The constipation is getting out of hand. Not only does it contribute to me feeling miserable, now its causing me to have some spotting. I've strained so hard a couple times that I've had some spotting. Not a lot & no cramping, but it's freaking me out. I'm doing what I can with the constipation, but ugh.

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post #34 of 44
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The constipation is getting out of hand. Not only does it contribute to me feeling miserable, now its causing me to have some spotting. I've strained so hard a couple times that I've had some spotting. Not a lot & no cramping, but it's freaking me out. I'm doing what I can with the constipation, but ugh.

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So sorry to hear your dealing with this.  I would try a warm latte - something caffeinated - and a walk.  It might be worth skipping prenatal vitamins for a day or two if you suspect the iron in them as the cuprit.  Maybe just a straight up folic acid pill for a week or so instead and try to get the other extras in through your diet.

 

post #35 of 44

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chapluqa - I have to weigh every day b/c if I don't, I will totally lose track of where I am.  And I still get surprised from time to time with a big number I wasn't expecting.  With the slow digestion issues, that makes it worse, but gives me a bit of an excuse, lol..."well, if I wasn't so full of poo, I wouldn't have gained 2 pounds since yesterday!"  LOL!! 

 
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If I don't go for 3 days, on the evening of the 3rd day I take a fiber pill.  Its really annoying because then I go, ah, urgently the next day.  But its better than having uncomfortably full bowels.  I've also started adding quite a bit of ground flax seed to my food, which I'm hoping will help.  Funny because with DD I had the opposite problem!
post #36 of 44

I will be 12 weeks on Saturday and I have always been sick until 16 weeks. On Tuesday night I didn't take my vitamins because I was "too tired". Low and behold I felt better yesterday. Not perfect but markedly better. So I decided not to take them again last night and I feel even better! I've been taking a really good quality daily vit., chelated zinc, vit. d, and biotin (b-7). Now I'm beginning to think that it's my vitamins that have been making me miserable. I think that it will be safe enough to take a week off at this point to see how I feel for the next few days. Then I'll reintroduce each vit. one at a time. What a difference in the way that I feel!

 

Nicmom- I can completely understand your mood. This is my 4th pregnancy and I have my bad mood days once in a while but I remember that during my first pregnancy I was more likely to get snotty with someone without even realizing it. I'm generally a nice person.

 

Without offending you....  You having a baby very much affects you and your husband. You are going through major changes and so is he. Yes they are different but I can imagine that he doesn't quite know what to do. Yes, it seems that he is taking care of your physically but I am guessing that he'd like to take care of you emotionally too. The wisdom on how to do that only comes with time. My DH pretty much knows what to do and what to say now. We've been married for 7 years. What I suggest to you is that you really take some quiet time to think about what will keep you happy and calm. If it is more space for yourself then so be it. The key is to be gentle with your DH when you relay this to him. I think that it's wise to make yourself accountable especially when you know that you are feeling short and you can see yourself being that way with him. Yes, at times our female hormones want us to act before we think but we all have some ability to control our actions. You might hate me for saying this. It might not be the advice that you wanted but I think that it might be good for you and your baby. Babies can sense our emotions and moods. Good luck.

post #37 of 44

Adoremybabe - no offense taken.  I totally understand.  I know when I am in one of those moods and always tell him in advance or if I don't catch it in time, apologize after the fact.  When I am feeling irritable or physically sick, I withdraw so that I don't take it out on him.  He is the opposite - when he is feeling bad physically or emotionally he seeks me out and I end up sharing in the burden.  When I withdraw he takes it as a slight to him.  Now that I sit down and type it out, this seems like the major problem and why he feels unappreciated.

post #38 of 44
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Adoremybabe - no offense taken.  I totally understand.  I know when I am in one of those moods and always tell him in advance or if I don't catch it in time, apologize after the fact.  When I am feeling irritable or physically sick, I withdraw so that I don't take it out on him.  He is the opposite - when he is feeling bad physically or emotionally he seeks me out and I end up sharing in the burden.  When I withdraw he takes it as a slight to him.  Now that I sit down and type it out, this seems like the major problem and why he feels unappreciated.



Oh good... I've been waiting for your reply. Oh the things that we learn about ourselves when we are pregnant! I am now perfectly fine barking orders at my DH if something needs to be done and I just can't. The best thing about a first baby is that when you are feeling better, you can focus your time on eachother and not other children too. Just keep communicating with him and know that this crappy time will not last :)

 

post #39 of 44

NicMom - hug2.gif  It gets better!

 

Still on poop watch at my house!  LOL!  I actually took a stool softener last night, but so far, nothing has materialized.  I think I'm on day 3 at this point.  Might try a coffee or something w/ some caffeine in it, thanks, Cheap Sunglasses!!  thumb.gif

post #40 of 44

JustKate - I have some flax seed @ home and have only used it once, will have to try that, too!  Thanks!!

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