I've only told my best friend who lives across the country, a neighbor with a child DD's age, and my hairdresser (who I see more than some of my friends!) because I wanted to postpone any hair color until later (if at all...paranoid). We're trying to wait until the beginning of 2nd trimester, wk 13 (which would only be this coming Thursday) to let loose. Our daughter has known since week 6. All our family lives way out of state...it's complicated but we can't tell DH's family before 2nd trimester--they're very high need emotionally and if something were to happen, they'd be mad at us for telling them 'too early' (though I have no reason to be overly cautious) and we'd end up dealing with helping THEM cope if something did happen. Sigh. And DD, at 6, was able to keep things under wraps during our visit last week--she's amazing. I'd love to tell my grandfather as he isn't getting any younger but as soon as we tell him, he'll happily spread the news and DD considers it her job (which we love!) to spread the news herself. But she doesn't understand why we might want to tell my family first before we tell DH's family so for now, EVERYONE gets to wait.
Then DD decided she wanted to tell my mom in person and have that be the first person--but she won't be visiting until mid October...OMG--I cannot wait that long!! DD actually wrote out a list of who she wanted to tell in which order and the little comedienne thinks it would be SO funny to not tell some people until AFTER the baby is born and surprise them with a picture--?!?! Maybe she figures if we've already waited THIS long... (which to her must seem like a year!) I do understand about phone calls and Skype being rather impersonal, but we don't really have many options with everyone spread far and wide. DH needs to tell people at work at SOME point but I don't think he's in any rush--he wants to make sure they don't penalize him with next year's schedule which they're working out right now. And if he tells any of his friends via FB or twitter, everyone at work will find out.
For now, it's still our 'little' secret though I'm dying to be out with it!!!!! At least we're cutting down on the time people will have for intrusive questions/comments (which I'm anticipating due to the 6+ yr age spacing between this pg and DD).