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post #21 of 27

We've been to two parties for 5-year-olds in the past month. Both parties, there were no dropoffs. Some of the kids (like DS) were younger than 5, but even the older kids' parents stayed. I don't know what the age is around here, but I would guess it's not til elementary school and even then at least first or second grade, unless it's a small party at home. (I think the parents are required to stay at party places, but I don't know what the age is for that....)

post #22 of 27

By 5, the norm was for kids to get dropped off and parents to leave them.  It probably helps that we're a relatively small town and we've never been invited to a party more than a 5-7 minute drive away, so its not like we're hacking across a metropolis, back again and then back *again* in the 2 hours of the party.  

 

I wasn't sure at first, in part because I'd read a lot of posts here and other places about "OMG!   How could you drop off your child?!"   But at the first party he went to, when he was just turned 5, I was the only mom who stayed.   Otherwise, the ones who stay are usually the ones who are also personal friends with the birthday child's parents, or just get talking and decide not to leave (In other words, its about socializing between parents, rather than being unwilling to drop off).  

post #23 of 27
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I wasn't sure at first, in part because I'd read a lot of posts here and other places about "OMG!   How could you drop off your child?!"   But at the first party he went to, when he was just turned 5, I was the only mom who stayed.   Otherwise, the ones who stay are usually the ones who are also personal friends with the birthday child's parents, or just get talking and decide not to leave (In other words, its about socializing between parents, rather than being unwilling to drop off).  



Yeah, I read those posts, too, and I never quite get it. I mean . . . I can understand if you're good friends with the parents and want to help out and/or socialize a bit, but baring special needs or separation anxiety on the part of the child, I can't understand why parents would linger.

post #24 of 27

We are hosting an upcoming birthday party for DS who is turning 8. He is inviting friends and school mates and the party is at a pizza place with a huge play area. I am hoping the parents will stay because honestly I do not know some of these kids well at all. And the play area is used by all the kids at the pizza place, it's not private.

 

I don't want to lose someone's kid LOL

 

 

post #25 of 27
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Yeah, I read those posts, too, and I never quite get it. I mean . . . I can understand if you're good friends with the parents and want to help out and/or socialize a bit, but baring special needs or separation anxiety on the part of the child, I can't understand why parents would linger.



But how big are these parties? I know the "rule" is the age plus one, and I can see that being totally manageable. But very few people here seem to follow that rule. I, personally, wouldn't want to host 20 3-year-olds at a birthday party and have no parents there to help supervise/watch their own kids! (Esp b/c last year, DS's party was at a park. I had DH, my sister, and my parents there to help, 9 friends and their parents, and I still had a hard time keeping track of where DS was while making sure everyone had food/drink/whatever they needed. No way could I have also managed the child whose food allergies preclude her from eating nearly everything we were serving, the boy who cries if you look at him funny, and the runner who never stays with the group, no matter how much fun the group is having. And the other 6 kids!) Are these smaller parties you're talking about when you leave the kids?

post #26 of 27

routinely i have about 20 kids. and usually a handful of moms do stay back (those who drive from v. far, or my friends i havent seen in a while). i dont think there is a written rule about how many moms stay but it ends up always 4 or 5 parents stay. 

 

when we have sleep overs with about 5 to 10 kids none of the parents stay even for a little while. i am talking 7 and older. 

post #27 of 27

Where I live, such huge parties are definitely *not* the norm. The biggest kid party I've seen has been 13 kids and that was a definite exception. Most parties are between 8-10 kids, at most. Also, where I live (in Europe), kids only start really having friends over for parties when they're 5 or so. If you're giving a party for your 3 year old, you'd invite family and maybe a few friends and their kids. You wouldn't even have 20 3 year olds, with good reason! smile.gif

 

I suppose if I felt like I needed help with a party, I'd ask a few friends, family, or parents I was close to of the kids invited to stay, but not expect all the parents to stay. Having that many parents around would actually just add to the work load! Mostly, though, I think I'd avoid putting myself in that situation to start with by simply not inviting such out of control numbers of kids. (*not* meant to be snarky! I get that it can be a cultural thing to have such huge parties)
 

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But how big are these parties? I know the "rule" is the age plus one, and I can see that being totally manageable. But very few people here seem to follow that rule. I, personally, wouldn't want to host 20 3-year-olds at a birthday party and have no parents there to help supervise/watch their own kids! (Esp b/c last year, DS's party was at a park. I had DH, my sister, and my parents there to help, 9 friends and their parents, and I still had a hard time keeping track of where DS was while making sure everyone had food/drink/whatever they needed. No way could I have also managed the child whose food allergies preclude her from eating nearly everything we were serving, the boy who cries if you look at him funny, and the runner who never stays with the group, no matter how much fun the group is having. And the other 6 kids!) Are these smaller parties you're talking about when you leave the kids?



 

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