I have a non-emergency repeat c-sect story, hope it helps!
My first was an emergency c-sect for a posterior baby who's heartrate kept elevating and would not turn. I got to 5 cms, but since she was posterior, the "turning" contractions were super intense and on top of one another for several hours. Although I was disappointed (I had planned a home water birth) I could tell that all was not well with her, and felt the operation to be a relief, a solution to a problem. Plus, I was encouraged by the fact that EVERYONE involved, including the doc who delivered her, said that it did not mean that I would need a c-sect next time.
Fast forward 20 months, and I am overdue and planning a VBAC. Unfortunately I put too much faith in the support of the hospital for my VBAC, and when I went in for my past-dates consult (I was 41 weeks, 5 days and having mild intermittent contractions, dilated 3 cms) was pressured into having my water broken. Right after that, things picked up and we were elated! I was on the EFM and the baby was happy. But after 2 hours, even though I was getting stronger, longer, more regular contractions, the doc on call was not thrilled with my cervical progress, and basically guilted me into feeling that I was taking a huge risk to the baby just for my own sense of accomplishment. That's not how I felt at all, and we had already discussed risk, and how far I was willing to go, with my midwife, but I was in labor, and vulnerable, and my husband broke down when she mentioned "fetal death". Unfortunately my midwife is very hands off, and had no one else to consult with, since the doc was stonewalling her. I had no one to support me, and although I felt that everything was going great, and I knew that baby was fine and happy, and that he was coming on his own, I agreed to the c-sect. I still look back and wish I hadn't. And I'm still coming to terms with it.
As far as the actual operation went, it was way worse the second time, as a non-emergency. I felt like I was going from a safe place to a scary place, and could not stop thinking about all the things that could go wrong. I was perfectly aware of everything, and that made it worse. The first time I felt like I was being saved, the second time I felt like I was being manipulated and shoved. Instead of relying on me and baby, I was relying on like 10 strangers to do their jobs perfectly, with my body and baby's life on the line. All the c-sect risks kept running through my head. I shook uncontrolably, had awful chest pain, and threw up in recovery. Vomiting with a new abdominal incision was terrible. So besides the disappointment of a VBAC-turned-c-sect, it was also scary and unnerving.
Recovery-wise (physically) the second time was way easier. I think part of it was having an operation when I wasn't already spent from intense labor. In addition to that, I knew what to expect, what to do, what not to do. However, emotionally took alot longer, I felt like I suffered from misinformation and an overall lack of support.
I hope this helps you make your decision, I know it would be different for you if you chose a repeat c-sect, rather than a VBAC turned c-sect, not the same disappointment. But it is definitely a whole new experience, being in a non-emergency operation. I hope that whatever you choose you have a happy rewarding birth, and a quick recovery!