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The "Complain About /Feel Good About" Thread

post #1 of 287
Thread Starter 

These threads were some of the busiest when we were pregnant, maybe they'll be a good outlet for us postpartum too?

 

Complaints:

I went to make myself a quick lunch today while DH held the baby, and the kitchen was a disaster.  DH didn't clean anything up from dinner last night and then piled breakfast dishes on top.  All he seems to do in the morning is sit on his phone or computer!! GAH!  Before I could even make my burger I had to empty the dishwasher, load it, AND wash the pan. 

 

Feel Goods:

I showered and finally shaved my legs today!!  Yahoo!!

post #2 of 287

I'm hungry, need to brush my teeth and got about 4 hours of sleep, much broken up last night.

But this beautiful, snuggly little man is sleeping on my chest, so I can't possibly move.

post #3 of 287

Complaint:

 

We have a family bed. DS1 sleeps next to the wall, then DH, me and the babe. Lately DS1 has been wanting to nurse in the middle of the night, and after nursing him, DH just leaves him next to me, instead of scooting him back over. So DS1 smells my milk and I end up lying between both babes nursing all.night.long. I seriously can't function like this. I finally told DH this morning that he needs to move DS1 back over to the wall after the first (and hopefully only) nursing session. Now I'm so tired that my eyes are burning and I have to edit his 7 page essay that's due tomorrow evening. Also, I'm coming down with DS1's cold. So is DH.

 

Feel good:

 

I'm showered and dressed with my hair partially done. It's almost 3 in the afternoon, though, so I'm not sure how "feel good" that really is.

post #4 of 287
Complaint: wardrobe. I don't own a single pair of jeans that fits me, and I only have one pair of maternity pants that still works. The rest of the maternity pants are so big they look funny, and of course all my pre-pregnancy pants are too small still. The ONE pair of pants that does fit is a pair of green cords. But most of the sweaters I have that fit over my giant milk boobs are red/burgundy. The cords are a flare pant too... I'm okay with a bootcut, but I feel ridiculous in the flare, even if I can find a top. I also only have one bra that fits. I don't wear one around the house, but the bra is so full coverage, that it will only work with 2 shirts I own, otherwise you can see the bra. I swear the straps are on either side of my neck! No boatnecks, no v-necks...

Feeling good that DH finished cleaning up the kitchen when I had to stop to nurse DD. And then he made us all lunch!
post #5 of 287
Complaint-
NO ONE in DH's family sent us anything for the baby. NOTHING. My freakin ex boyfriend (guy I would have married if we both weren't so stupid at the time) sent Magnolia a gift, but nope, not DH's family. The one vehicle we have that we could drive Magnolia in broke down a couple days after we got home from the hospital- then this week DH's truck blew a tire. He took the jeep in to see how much it would cost, since we were going to have to spend $$ now one way or another- $350. Which is $350 we don't have right now. We really wanted the jeep fixed before he leaves for bootcamp so we can go do things as a family. He texted his dad and let him know that if he was planning on sending a wedding present or baby gift, we really could use cash. I HATE HATE HATE asking people for anything, especially money- but his dad works at a job where he makes $50+ an hour, he could easily afford to help us out All of Mikey's siblings have gotten at least a couple hundred when they got married, and baby gifts as well- but his dad told him he couldn't help us out at all. We've worked things out now to get the jeep fixed, but I would be perfectly fine with the baby never meeting Mikey's side of the family. Its not even about money or gifts, but about the general lack of concern for her.

Feel good-
I was able to get a full shower and new pjs and brush my hair and teeth before DH left for work!
And my family is already head over heels for Magnolia, they're always asking me about her and demanding I post new pics on facebook. My sister is actually being nice now and not snarky about every little thing. She'll get to meet them all when we go back to GA in a few months and I have a feeling I'll be beating them off with a stick. I have this mental image of us walking in the door and everyone being at my mom's house and swarming her all at once. Hmmm... maybe I shouldn't tell anyone we're going to be in town until after we arrive.
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Feel Good: Got out of the house today. Napped at my In-Laws while MIL held the baby, then napped again with him on my chest.

I'm finally getting things cleaned up and getting into a "normal" routine. I at least feel functional if not 100%.

 

Complain: The inlaws questioned how often he's nursing.

post #7 of 287
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Originally Posted by kylaskye View Post

Feel Good: Got out of the house today. Napped at my In-Laws while MIL held the baby, then napped again with him on my chest.

I'm finally getting things cleaned up and getting into a "normal" routine. I at least feel functional if not 100%.

 

Complain: The inlaws questioned how often he's nursing.


I've come up with a fun way to roll my eyes at people who question what I'm doing.

"We are primates and as such I plan to take most of my parenting techniques from other primates - I rarely see their children throwing tantrums in the grocery store, they must be doing it right!"

Just -try- to argue with that :P

 

post #8 of 287

I have a complaint about my incision.

It was healed well. Everyone said so. I even got cleared to massage it a bit.

And then the combo of sitting with baby/hot weather/c-section belly crease gave me a lovely yeasty problem in it.

And now it's reopening.

I'm fixing the yeast with frequent sprayings of ACV/water and a sock shoved in there to keep air flow up, but it still sometimes bleeds. I find it very very tiresome. And now there's no way it's going to heal as "perfectly" as it had been.

post #9 of 287
Feel good:  I'm having a serious love affair with my moby this time around, but it's off-white and gets really dirty looking really fast. DH said I should order another one that won't show spots as easily and encouraged me to get a beautiful black and white silk panel moby d. Yay! I'm gonna order it today before he changes his mind. 

Complaint: DH and I argued about his weekend gym schedule this morning and all it accomplished was pissing me off even more and DH passive-agressively moping around all morning. Men are such freaking babies!!
post #10 of 287

I was so missing this thread- thanks for getting it going again :)

 

Complaint:  Im dreading another week of no sleep - DS has been really gassy/fussy and we're not getting those couple of 2 hr sleeps that were keeping me going.  I seem to do so well the first 2 weeks- adrenaline - and then start to miss my nights of blissful sleep....

 

Feel good:   I got 8-9 hrs sleep last night , DD has been so well behaved and cheerful this week- SO much better than last week, thank GOD.  

 

We got to the farm today and have fresh produce.  I have menu ideas for the week and DH got us pizza tonight.  It's the little things that keep me :)!!

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Complaint: I'm really tired.

 

Feel Good About: I've got everything ready today that I possibly could for the upcoming horrid week. All laundry is done, I cleaned the entire house, and everything ready for my meeting and the girl's school  in the morning. 

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I feel bad for getting annoyed at my son's scratching guilty.gif.  Sometimes I feel like if he scratches my boobs/chest one more time, I may lose my mind.  It seems like it's impossible to keep them smooth.

post #13 of 287
No complaints ATM- except its too hot and I don't want to get up and turn the air on.

Magnolia has had a much better day than yesterday. Except for a couple of minutes fussy, screamy, gassy episode that was followed by a huge blowout, she's been really pleasant. She's been sleeping the past few hours. I'm bored and I could get up and do housework, but she's just so cute laying beside me sleeping I kind of want to wake her up and play with her.
post #14 of 287

Complaint: It's cold in the house and we don't have pellets yet so not much to do about it.

 

Feel good: I took a shower today without any interruptions. And I got to sleep to 1.30 am and again to 5.30 am. These three-hour chunks of sleep are so much better than the 90-minute intervals we were doing a few days ago.

 

 

post #15 of 287
Thread Starter 

The Feel Good:  It feels like fall and I'm having some pumpkin spice coffee!  Loving this cooler weather.

 

FischK - what are pellets?

 

The Complaint: I wish I fit into something other than sweatpants and XL shirts.  BAH!  I stepped on the scale and it's UP a pound.  Eff you, scale!!

post #16 of 287

Oh how I love this thread!!

 

Complaint: My DH. He doesnt do much around the house. I do laundry daily and I fold his and put it on the bench at the end of our bed to put away, it sits there untill I have to fuss at him to put it away. Really? I do it DAILY, PUT IT AWAY DAILY... I think there is about 4 days of his laundry up there waiting to be put away. He will step over things that need to be picked up, the dishes and trash (his two jobs) are always over flowing... I just want him to see the things that need to be done and DO THEM with out me having to ask 16 times.

 

Feel Good: Ella is a great baby. Gabe (our middle child) was SUCH a hard baby, he screamed for the first 11 weeks NON STOP. Even when nursing. Yeah, he was fun... Anyway, Ella is a super chill baby and sleeps pretty good already. She gives me 4-5 hours at night in a streatch.

post #17 of 287
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post

FischK - what are pellets?

 


Wood pellets. They look like miniature AAA-batteries. And they are our main heat source. We also use wood and oil (but only when it's really cold).

 

post #18 of 287
No complaints yet today.

I love my husband so much. I don't know what I would do if he wasn't so supportive. I love that he understands our toddler DD still needs to be cuddled by someone at night to feel secure enough to sleep well. He keeps his arm around her all night. The other day Augustus was fussy while I was in the shower and my husband tried to put him in the ring sling. It was all twisted up and not at all how its supposed to be positioned, but I love that he tried.
post #19 of 287

still waiting for those great stretches at night some of you are so blessed with these days !

 

Trying to stay positive today:  the weather is gorgeous, got out for a one hour stroller walk this am , actually somehow had the energy to cook a couple if meals worth of food this am (thank you, coffee?!), my husband spent Sat pm with LO so I could sleep and seems to have a lot more empathy for how I feel most days - and my refreshed brain appreciates and sees all DH is really doing every day.  I feel badly I give him such a hard time :( , DD is loving school and we are trying to come up with schedules to allow me some rest and her some fun......

post #20 of 287
Quote:
Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post

The Feel Good:  It feels like fall and I'm having some pumpkin spice coffee!  Loving this cooler weather.

 

FischK - what are pellets?

 

The Complaint: I wish I fit into something other than sweatpants and XL shirts.  BAH!  I stepped on the scale and it's UP a pound.  Eff you, scale!!

Complaint: I don't have pumpkin spice coffee and there's no good coffee place in town, anyways. (Dunkin Donuts isn't even out here, and that's what I grew up on and the nearest Starbucks is an hr drive away. That's an ongoing complaint tho.)

 

Feels Good: The weather is gorgeous.

 

Complaint: I can't go anywhere. 

 

Feels Good: Might be able to get out of the house with my MIL someday soon. I really need a mama-friend who I can go out with, tho.

 

 

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