I think there is a lot of misunderstanding here. I haven't heard one woman say that her c-section or RSC was "so great," or even her first choice. The OP said she created the Facebook group because:
"I just wanted a safe place for c-section moms who aren't necessarily sad about their c-sections and don't necessarily feel that they made an uneducated decision. And they may want c-sections in the future or they may want VBAC's. Calling it a positive page doesn't mean that you have to have total peace about your c-section; it means that I hope it will be a place where there can be discussion but c-sections moms won't feel torn down."
In the book Birthing From Within, the authors write, "It's difficult for people to strike a balance between acknowledging what the (Cesarean) mother went through and missed out on, while helping her celebrate her birth."
I DO NOT think that discussions of VBAC vs. RCS are mutually exclusive. I wish the forum were called VBAC and RCS, or that there was a C-section recovery forum, OR, even simply a hospital birth forum. The recovery is not just physical, it's emotional too, and for those familiar with my situation, it can have a lasting impact for years. I have been robbed of choice, not just from the mainstream medical community, but also by the midwives in my area, who refuse to treat me.
While I am desperate for a VBAC, and may still choose to go that route, I also have the right to seek support for an RCS. I am absolutely, utterly terrified of an RCS, but it may very well be a reality for me. It gives me great comfort to hear from women who survived it and say it wasn't so bad. Don't I deserve that as much as someone seeking support for a UC?
Seeking a community of natural AP mamas and seeking a safe and drama-free RCS are NOT mutually exclusive goals. NOBODY is advocating c-section itself as good choice or beneficial in any way. I haven't heard one woman in this thread say, "C-sections rock!" Every single person I've heard from in this forum who had a c-section or RCS did so after every attempt to have a home birth, natural birth, UC, or VBAC.