I'd like to pull them at the end of this week, if I can get dh to agree to this. They've only been there for seven weeks. I'm just looking for support here, and for ideas as to how we can undo some of the damage. :( On the bright side, I think all of us have a new appreciation for what a great thing we had going on at home.
I think my oldest DS (age 8), will rebound quickly, because he tends to see unreasonable attitudes for what they are and not take them personally. Unfortunately, my DD (age 6) has taken a huge hit to her self-confidence. She is just beginning to read, and is one of only two students in her combined kindy-1st grade who didn't arrive reading fluently. Her feelings are very hurt that the teacher doesn't think she reads well enough to look at the official Montessori "books"--which I understand, because she clearly can read some of them. She doesn't want to get out of bed in the morning. My youngest DS (age 4) seems to be least affected, though I suspect there are some issues there as well.
I did a search of the previous threads about Unschooling and Montessori, so I know some of you have experience with this. We put them in school because I was burned out and having that unschooling freak-out where I completely doubted myself and what we were doing, and because we thought this school/approach was more child-centered than it turned out to be. Also, dh and I were frequently battling for time alone because he wanted to spend more time on his business and I was (and am) trying to finish a novel by December.
I'm really sad that I did this to my kids.