Hi all - I am looking for some advice related to tooth brushing. DS is 13 months old, and although we try to brush his teeth before bed everyday, he doesn't always let us do it. Sometimes he just closes him mouth and turns his head away. I've been trying to do some research about tooth brushing under the age of 2 and it seems there are two camps - 1. the group that says you should brush no matter what, even if you have to pry their mouth open and brush while they scream, and 2. the group who says you should try to brush, but don't worry if they don't let you do it everyday and don't try to make toothbrushing traumatic by forcing it on them.
So my pedi is definitely in the first camp. She told us that 2-5 seconds of forced brushing while they scream is better than no brushing. But my instincts are telling me that could make DS less likely to develop good brushing habits when he is older, so I am inclined to not worry when he doesn't let us brush his teeth. (We've never tried to force it on him.)
Another potential complication here is the fact that DS nurses several times overnight, and the pedi also warned us about that causing cavities. (I don't believe evidence supports that, but I haven't looked for any sources, so I'm not sure.) DH tends to take what the pedi says as gospel, so he is concerned about DS's teeth, despite what I tell him. (DH is VERY sensitive to tooth issues, because bad teeth run in his family - he has had lots of cavities and several root canals. I, on the other hand, have a totally different background - my family has great teeth, and I have never yet had a cavity at age 31. So who knows what DS will be like!)
So I guess my questions are - what do all of you do about brushing your LO's teeth? Should I try to force it? Is there an age when it might get easier? Any toothbrushing tips?