Bio mom wants to borrow baby? - Page 2

[BubblingBrooks]

Yeah, we cannot makes waves. Period. So far, she has not asked again, and we have not given her an answer either.
She did visit this week, so could be she just needed to see her.

Originally Posted by SundayCrepes 

Don't be naive about court. They do not always go with what is best for the baby. If the child is legally hers, that can trump everything. AND if this is a tribal baby and you are not tribe you could really run into problems. Definitely do not take the advice from anyone on a forum in this case other than the good advice of talking to your lawyer and social worker. It is your job to protect this baby, but since TPR has not been signed you are in a tricky situation.

[Smithie]

"I know she had the baby, but if she cant give up the drugs, then she shouldnt be responsible for a baby, not even for an hour..."

I hear you, Adaline'sMama. I feel the same way. But when you choose to get involved with the care of kids that you don't have parental rights over, then sometimes the drug  addict who "had the baby" gets access that you don't think is prudent. It's just not your decision. 

OP, I agree with all the others that this is something for your worker to be aware of, and to hopefully handle. 

[BubblingBrooks]

No social worker. She did the home study, and that is it.
We will let the lawyer know next time we see him, and see about getting at least her TPR done asap.

[Smithie]

That would be the crucial step! I agree, if you have no agency worker to call at this point, the next best thing is to call the lawyer and tell him/her that unstable biomom is requesting access in unsafe circumstances and that you want the TPR expedited. 

You do need to accept the fact that since TPR hasn't been signed, and since this is a private adoption, the mom can and possibly will change her mind on this. This baby is not yours yet. I know that is hard to hear. 

[queenjane]

Originally Posted by Smithie 

That would be the crucial step! I agree, if you have no agency worker to call at this point, the next best thing is to call the lawyer and tell him/her that unstable biomom is requesting access in unsafe circumstances and that you want the TPR expedited. 

You do need to accept the fact that since TPR hasn't been signed, and since this is a private adoption, the mom can and possibly will change her mind on this. This baby is not yours yet. I know that is hard to hear. 

Not only that...but are you sure the tribe will consent? They could totally decide at this point that they'd rather place the baby themselves, and you'd have no legal leg to stand on. :(

[BubblingBrooks]

both parents are adults, and normally they do not object. It helps that we are keeping it open.